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Old 06-02-2010, 11:50 AM   #1
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BIL passed away on Memorial Day

My bil passed away after battling with cancer since 2/09. He was at home until the day before he died. My sister just couldn't handle having to hit the morphine pump every 15 min because my bil couldn't. She did her best and I think she has paid a price emotionally and physically, but she would have it no other way. Dying from cancer is so very painful and you have air hunger. He just didn't get enough air toward the end. He said he was in pain all over and even the pump didn't help.

They live in another state so I wasn't around, but I was with him on his birthday the end of February! Spent five days with him and sis. We started out not being too close, but the last few years we grew a bound. I'm gonna miss him.

When they say 'you never know' you really never do. He was given all kinds of survival times and none of them were true. When he died they said he had at least a week. So don't base your decisions on that. If you need to make plans to see someone, don't wait too long.

Time spent together is to be cherished.
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Re: BIL passed away on Memorial Day

You make a good point. My uncle was given 3 months, he died in 2 weeks. Others are given 6 months, and 5 years later still alive. I think it's a real message on the power of hope and thinking positively. I think sometimes people just give up, and that's why they die. Not all the time, of course. There are people determined to fight that their bodies just fail.

 
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Re: BIL passed away on Memorial Day

I'm sorry for your loss sawbuck, but glad your bil is at peace now and no longer suffering.

 
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Re: BIL passed away on Memorial Day

Unfortunately that is the only solace we can take from this part of life. When my sister told their grandchild, she put her hands over her face for a few seconds, pulled away her hands with tears in her eyes but a smile on her face and she said, "you know what?! I'm glad poppy is in heaven now. He doesn't have anymore pain."
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