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Ivory,

I think that every day you get through is an accomplishment. Ever hear the phrase "a watched pot never boils"? I think grief and loss is like this. It hurts and it sucks and its a drag. You feel sad and heavy and down and you just want it to end. Don't stop yourself from crying if you need to cry. It will feel so good to cry when you need to. When you feel remotely good, latch onto that with something to make you feel better. Read books that inspire, listen to music that will inspire (not sad music or music that reminds you of your loved ones) go for a walk in a beautiful place. Don't focus so much on when it will end. I think one day you will wake up and feel a lot better, feel closure, feel better and the next day a little bit more better, and the day after even more better and so on. There is no formula for when. If you are getting really really sick of feeling this way, see a counselor, actually you should see a counselor anyways because they are trained and educated on how to help you feel with such sad feelings. They may be able to put you on a medication to give your body what it is lacking through this sad time if its been longer than normal, whatever that means. Good luck and remember they are always with you in spirit.