Originally Posted by Vanessa 44
I can not get over the death of my son, he was 20 and died with his best friend in a car accident. During the last few months he did so many strange things, two week before he went to church to be reborn, 6 months before we went from South Africa to the UK where he only wanted to spend time with his Grandparents, and not party with his sister and cousins. I am so confused did he know something we all did not?? It will be his 21st soon and I am so unsure what to with his ashes. Has any one out there been in a simular position as I would love hear you views as I am still completelu devestated and .st
I am extremely sorry for this. I am experiencing the same problem and so I know the impact of grief and depression. I lost my 29 year old brilliant son in a car accident. the car was driven by his friend who is alive now. He also did strange things before the accident like disposing clothes for orphanage attending temples etc. Even after one and a half year I ( father ) could not reconcile this loss and his mother is yet to come out of the shock.
You have to shift your attention to some other things like pursuing your old hobbies, attending spiritual meetings etc.
You may dissolve the ash in a running river - preferably a place where he would have visited and liked.
We have to learn that nothing is in our control and also inspite of any loss we need to live as our end is also not in our hands.