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Have you expressed the way you feel to your friends parents? I think you will find that they never even had a thought about you being responsible, in fact they probably feel bad for you that she was on your way to see you.

I have a similar situation except I am the parent who lost a child. My son age 23 was also going to visit a friend the night he was in a car accident that took his life. She had also expressed feeling guilty that he was on his way to see her. I told her that she didn't need to feel that way. That I was sorry that she had to go through a night of hell waiting for him to show up, she called & called with no answer. Until the next day when she found out what had happened. She suffered so much and I told her how sorry I was that she went throught that and not to feel guilty it would only get in her way of grieving for him. I also told her he would never want you to feel responsible.

Hope that helps. My prayers are with you.