Re: family divided after father's death
I hope so. I have also lived my entire life with a sister that has gone undiagnosed with a severe mental illness for 53 years now. She has done nothing but reak havoc in my parents and I's life. Finally, under the advice of a specialist in her particular illness my parents had to write her out of the will and put the power into my hands, just to avoid what you are now going through. I still dread when that day comes for many reasons, but I refuse to fight her for money. That just sickens me.
I had to cease all contact with her to protect myself and my children from her which was heartbreaking, because it left me without my only sister. Even though we never had a good relationship, there was always hope in my eyes. It took some counseling to help me let her go, but I have and life is much better without her constant problems, constant fighting and all the rest.
When we cannot change things, we can always change our attitude about them. That is my mantra.
That experience is where my advice came from, so it comes from my heart, and if it helped you a bit, I am grateful. Please feel free to come back, we are here to help, and I am here everyday.
Again, I am so sorry for the loss of your father and for your sisters illness, which led to all of this. Love always wins in the end.