Re: 26 Year Old on the Journey to Losing My Mother!
You have had many losses at a young age. I'm so sorry for that and my heart is heavy for you as you anticipate the death of your ailing mom. I'm glad you have your boyfriend to stand by you. Don't be afraid to lean on him. Please don't isolate yourself from your friends. Reconnect with them now because you need them as well during this difficult time of fear and despair. If you have other family such as aunts, uncles, cousins give them a call so they can be there for you and your mom. It's so important to take this time to have heart to heart talks with your mother. Discuss great memories, share with your mother why you have appreciated her. Let her know that she will always be in your heart as you travel through life's milestone events as well as every day after she passes. It will help her and you to talk about how much you have meant to each other. After she passes you will be so glad that loving feelings were shared and you'll treasure the closeness you and she had. You'll be able to carry that with you forever and it will really help pull you through the tough times when you are missing her. Also, speak with the hospice nurses and social worker. They are there to take care of your mom's needs AND yours. They are specifically skilled in attending to many issues related to death and grief so do utilize their services. Inquire about berevement counseling as well. It can be helpful to connect with others who share similar losses and are struggling with their grief. You have managed to get through some tough times thus far...you will get through this as well even though it will be extremely painful. My thoughts are with you.