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Old 05-09-2012, 10:40 AM   #1
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My brother died 4/14/12

My brother died less than a month ago in an auto accident.... supposedly "they" think he had a heart attack, or some other health issue - we are waiting for the autopsy results ... I guess my question is this - I have been having all sorts of weird feelings ... i feel guilty. I feel guilty for eating, drinking, going to sleep, taking a shower - basically everything. My therapist says it is survivor guilt. Is this normal? Has anyone else felt this? It is a horrible feeling .... I think about him all the time and I know it is still early in the grieving process for me, but I have never thought I would feel like this.

 
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Old 05-09-2012, 04:33 PM   #2
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Re: My brother died 4/14/12

I agree with you, survivor guilt is rough. You're not alone in feeling that way, though. If you were, your therapist wouldn't even have a name for it, you know?
I'm so sorry for your loss. I bet that your brother would want you to celebrate life, since he cannot. I hope that, in time (your OWN timing, not anyone else's) you will be feeling less guilty, but I'm sure you will always miss your brother.

blessings, Sue

 
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