I'm writing this on behalf of a family member.
Just over 6 months ago i lost my sister to a mixture of depression and alcohol abuse. Leaving behind her partner of 26 years.
It's really taking its toll on him.
He won't admit it but he is drinking rather heavy at night to try help him sleep. As he is really struggling to sleep.
And also I think he is finding it very hard to accept as are we all.
He isn't the sort to go out and find another partner either. As he is very shy and a rather quiet person.
It's such a Shame to see this happening.
His eyes don't look healthy anymore which is also a sign of heavy substance abuse.
By main reason for posting here is because none of my family know how to bring this drinking up into conversation without hurting his feelings? But in the same breath we don't want the same thing to happen to him as happened to his partner. And it will If we leave it.
He wont take meds, and don't know if he will go to the doctors? But we need to try something but what?
I appreciate your not wanting to hurt his feelings, but obviously this is a conversation someone has to have with him. I think that I would say, "the family has noticed that you have been terribly sad since my sister died. We are worried about you, and think that you may be drinking too much. Is there any way that we can support you as you get some help?"
Then all you can do is pray. But please, do say something.