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Old 10-17-2012, 11:53 AM   #1
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My daughters friends Moms death

So I am not sure how to even begin. My daughter has been friends with this girl since they were 4 years old. Her mother had a massive heart attack at the age of 38. I'm 39. I know that tomorrow they are taking this woman off of life support, as there is no brain activity. My daughter doesn't know yet, I am going to try to tell her tonight...I'm just not sure how to say it. My daughter was crying hysterically last night, and my heart is breaking. Does anyone have any suggestions on proper conversation during this tragic time? Thank you.

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Old 10-17-2012, 12:54 PM   #2
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I noticed you had no replies. I am not an expert on such a subject, but I thought you deserved a reply of some sort... I dont think there is any proper way of telling news of the sort... Dr's have been doing this their whole medical life, and I am sure if you had a reply from one, they too would tell you it is never easy. My gran passed away when I was 13. When my mom told me she passed away, it was one of the hardest things I have ever had to listen too... But I appreciated the fact that she was straight about it, she didn't beat around the bush or treat me like a child that couldn't handle the news... Be honest with her, sit her down, tell her you have news... let it come from your heart, and just be there for her to take the news however she does. Best of luck

 
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Old 10-17-2012, 01:04 PM   #3
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Thank you for your response! I decided I would play it straight forward with her, and just go from there. Thank you again.

 
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Old 10-17-2012, 02:09 PM   #4
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I'm sorry for your daughters friends loss and how it has affected your daughter also......it's hitting home for her, she's worried about you now probably.....i think playing it straight is a good idea, and maybe this is an opportunity to discuss with your daughter the subject of "quality of life"

 
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