Re: My hair will not grow! :( and split ends..
First of all, I would recommend stopping all heat styling, blow-drying, etc. Use a deep conditioner when you wash it and use a leave-in conditioner on the ends.
Don't wash it every day if possible. I've read that a boar-bristled brush is best for distributing natural oils to the hair shaft; it seems to work well for me.
Also, if you've had the split ends trimmed, I would wait as long as possible between trimmings. The problem with frequent cuts is when the amount cut off is equal to or greater than the amount your hair grows. I couldn't get my hair to grow until I stopped blow-drying it and quit getting it trimmed until it got noticeably uneven. (If you must blow dry your hair, try doing it less often, and if you need to blow dry to get body, try letting it air dry, then blow dry only when it's almost dry.)
I hope this makes sense, I can only suggest what has worked for me. Good luck!