Tman:
Hey, dude. You remember the old rocker, Ted Nugent? He's going deaf due to the loud amps behind him when he played in concert. Also, I'm an ex-GI, as if you couldn't have noticed, and I know that other troops have lost some or all of their hearing in one or both ears due to exposure to loud noises - jet aircraft on the taxiway or launch ramp and on engine run-ups, cannon/motar fire, prolonged exposure to rifle fire, being close to an explosion and so forth. Let's face it, loud noises do cause damage. Wearing earphones presents no less of an opportunity to lose your hearing if you crank the amp. Our ears aren't meant to withstand that type of abuse.
I have a hearing loss due to a military related accident I was involved in. I now wear bi-lateral (both sides) hearing aides. I've had to start taking American Sign Language classes at our local college as has some of my family so we can communicate with each other later on when I lose my hearing for good - and by all accounts that I know of, I will.
What I've learned is that hearing loss isn't the end of the world. I take it that music is a big part of your life, it still is for me and will be until I can't hear any more. You know what, over the years I've had the pleasure to hear many different artists; their music is emplanted in my head and memory. I know, that's not the same and I agree. It took me only a short while to come to grips with my hearing loss. I had to struggle back from near death after getting hurt so if in the trade off I lose my hearing, I'm OK with that. I have to be. There's no stopping it from coming so I'm doing my best to adapt to it right now.
It's not all that bad really. I'm still heavily involved in veteran support groups (I assist the veteran community in getting their benefits from the VA & help to resolve some of their problems on a civilian advocate basis); I'm a part-time volunteer for GLAD (Greater Los Angeles council on Deafness); in the not too distant future, I'll become the local head of a California-based Hard of Hearing support group; in the process of going deaf, I'm still smart and I'm not ugly yet; my wife and kids still love and respect me and I'm having a hell of a better time at not having to listen to loud rap music that's blaring out of lowered Honda Civics.
The entertainment industry is listening to us Deaf/HoH customers and making more close-captioned movies, Deaf and Hard of Hearing support groups are all over the place and believe me when I say this, with the right frame of mind, you can easily transition from the hearing community to the Deaf and Hard of Hearing community. It you are going to lose your hearing, rather that try to fight a losing battle only to beat yourself up emotionally, embrace the challenge. Save your emotional strength for the journey ahead.
What strikes me is that you may not be getting the proper support from your doctors and that bugs me. Dude, you need a better close-in support group! And, you need better information so you can make wise personal health decisions. Demand that the next time you see your doctor.
Stand firm, Tman. Never

give up. You are the master of your own destiny. Don't allow hearing loss to stop you in the course of your having a complete and full life!
VE VET