Thanks for the response!
I found a great specialist, I went see him twice.
On Monday I had a CT scan and hearing test. Here is the status.
1. Left ear - Confirmed Retraction pocket and he did find a small perforation (other specialist did not see the perforation), no signs of cholesteatoma. Doctor said it's a 50:50, I may develop cholesteatoma in the retraction pocket in the future (perforation increases the risk). Hs said he could perform a Tympanoplasty. They would enter behind my ear and cut out the lower half of the retraction and reconstruct it with tissue. The audiologist said she thinks the hearing loss is conductive (no nerve damage) - I forgot to ask my doctor about the hearing test, originally he told me with the Tympanoplasty would not change change my hearing, however if it's conductive the Tympanoplasty should help? I'll have to ask him again before the operation. I'm a bit worried about getting the operation, but it seems I should bite the bullet now because it will be much harder to treat if cholesteatoma sets in. I'm just worried the hearing and ringing will get worse after the operation --- or maybe it could get better?
2. Right Ear - No cholesteatoma, Ear is healthy - he said all the popping could be to the overuse of decongestants, weight loss (which I have had), stress (which I have had) or not enough liquids (dehydration). He said he thinks this will go back to normal on it's own. He originally though an abnormality in the balance bones (?) could cause these symptoms however the CT scan show the bones looked fine. It still pops almost every time I drink and I have to sniff to correct it (so annoying).
I keep worrying it's something more - like an infection they can't see, but the CT scan, MRI's and one of the 4 specialist I think would have picked up on it.
So all in all things look like they will get better.
Also -Just got engaged! I think that was stressing me out much more than I though. Now the wedding planning!