Hi! I have a boyfriend for 8 years, we are sexually active since year 2002 but we are doing it in a safe way. My boyfriend is having hepatitis B since 1999.. I've known it all along but he just told me last year 2009 when his viral load increased that he feared for his life and he is trying to push me away from him. I do love him and it hurts so much that he just gave up on us. He never really give me the exact viral count he's having right now but he told me that the doctors and the National Kidney Institute told him that anytime soon he will be gone.. I am really sad knowing he condemn and isolate himself, he rejected all my calls. My question is how long will a person lives if the Doctor ever told you that anytime soon you'll be gone and you can never be treated.
I really wanted to be there for him no matter what.. Please..
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To add to this, I myself went to a doctor to test if I am positive for Hepatitis and the result was non reactive, antibodies was .88. Doctor said to me that I was exposed to the virus but then my body reacted to this thus, produces antibodies so I am lucky enough and I am immuned to the hep b virus.
I tried to show my boyfriend the unconditional love I could give for almost 8 years but then He never wanted me to worry so much by trying to push me away and to forget him totally.. but how could I for He is the one person I wanted to spend for the rest of my life. maybe now he is so stressed out and its way past the human control that his viral count increased and that for him getting older, getting worsier, He is living healthy lifestyle and diet though but why?..
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Does your friend drink alcohol? That is the worst thing he can do. Check around on the internet for information on Hep B, most people don't die from it if they eat well and take car of themselves. Liver damage usually takes a long time to set in. Your body did what most do when exposed to Hep B, it fought it off and now you are immune. 80% of the south asian population tests positive for Hep B, and they are doing OK. Hope this make you feel better
Kathy
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Nope, my boyfriend is very disciplined when it comes to his health, since 1999 he never drinks alcohol or any fatty foods. That was why he's so stressed out when he found out his viral load increased that much. We planned on settling down, that was before his viral count increased and exceeded the maximum, that's what he explained to me. He did not want me to worry so much that is why he is pushing me away..
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I know how your bf feels, it's very hard to accept the facts. I recently found out I had active chronic hep b and currently pregnant with my first baby. GI told me I prolly had it when I was really young btw the age of 1 to 5, I'm in my early 30s now. I didn't get all my test back yet, but my doc told me according to my situation mine might be in billions, which is pretty bad and needs treatment. Lucky my husband is immune to it.
How old is your bf? By increasing viral load is not gonig to kill him, maybe he developed something else? Based what my GI doc told me, usually there are stages when people are youngers (20 to their 30s) their viral load will increase, then it dies down a little or some people might become inactive and stay that way forever or it will come back and develop cirrohos or liver cancer when you are older. As long you keep monitoring it, it's treatable and controllable. He also mentioned people with hep b not because of hep b. Stay positive and don't give up on him, he needs a lot of support now. Hope this help.
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Thank you so much yma it really helps but I just have some things that I should share more, my boyfriend could clear things out but he remains mum about his status of having HEP B.. I pray that you're going to deliver safely your baby and how I really wish to have one too with my BF and wish be my husband..
My BF is currently 33 years old.. He does not want to get me pregnant maybe he's afraid that our baby might get infected too but my doctor told me that I could have one cause I'm protected and immune.. I am confused..I really wanted to have one with him I made a point to that to him before but he just brushed off the idea..
The Doctor told my BF to go on diet to just eat banana,grilled fish with no salt and oil , no vitamin c and sweets.. I really do not know what is his stage right now, what's his status he just wanted to die eventually cause he feels so hopeless....He had slight cough for almost a month now.. I hope someone out there could explain to me his status based from the facts I stated above so that I would understand more about the sickness and how could I can take care of him even if he is pushing me away.. I know that he loves me too he's been fighting the sickness for so long, planning to have life with me. He is very curious on what his diet,never smoke and drink alcoholic,..
When we were together instead of going to some restaurants that I love or he loved we would find a place who had grilled fish and I would order the same cause I really wanted to be with him through tough times. We usually went to a private place or less crowded place because of his situation. I do understand really.. People might say I'm crazy but that's probably how you call it when you have true love in your heart...
Sadly, Later on he just felt that I should have life better than with him, its so depressing cause I would rather be with him than anyone else...
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Hi Soolonely, can you contact the national kidney assoc and tell them you are his wife and see if they can give you any sore of info, or can you talk to his family and ask if anyone of them know? Sometimes HepB can lead to other problems too, unless you see the whole report you can't really guess what is his condition. It's a very difficult situation, he doesn't want a family most likely thinking he's going to die early and don't want to leave family behind. Since you are immune the virus is not going to transmit to the baby.
Knowing that your life is going to cut short is very depressing. I constantly thinking and cry about it secretly, I just can't help it. I don't know where you live, but there are a lot of support group or counseling might help?
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His family did not know what he is suffering right now.. I tried to call National Kidney Institute but they will not give me the results unless authorized by the patient. They give me his doctor's name and I am trying to track him, hope he could help me if ever. My heart is sinking also.. I pray for your health also yma, my heart went out to you.. Just hold on, you are included in my prayers.. I am here in the Philippines, pasay city.. They say everything happens for a reason.
Yeah you are right he does not want to have a family and leave behind but how he wishes to have a normal life and family of his own but his sickness deterred all of his desires.. I will keep you posted once I talked to his doctor personally.. I pray that he could help and he is willing to share with me since I know how doctors protects the privacy of their patients..
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hi! I just want to say how are yma? you've been very much helpful in easing my pain the last time.. I just want to update about what happened between me and boyfriend. Our relationship is getting stronger I never leave his side up until today.. We went to the doctor together, I am keeping updated on what happened to his life and with hep b sickness he is carrying. He is far more happier now since we found a Doctor that knows how to help hep b patients move on their lives. We now have a quality time together, he realizes that he's blessed to have me in his life and I feel so honored. Having a love that's true is what keeps us drawn together in sickness and in health.
To those people who have hepatitis, never lose hope and never stop loving.
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Hi, ya it is really sad but keep on fighting! I'm in the other opposite side tho, my girlfriend got hep b and I don't because I was vaccine when I'm was a kids. I feel lucky but also feel sad for my girlfriend, I know how you when tho, and we are the same! Anyway we when to the doctor specialist for hep b and he did not do anything because he said she dont need any treatment right now. All she need is to come and check up every 3 or 6 month. I kind of upset that no treatment available for her at this time. Please let me know if there are new treatment! By the way the good thing is that she is really health now. I just try my best to make her happier, because I hear that happy and eat well and excuirse can cure this virus.
Good luck you guy and who are with hep!
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I've known it all along but he just told me last year 2009 when his viral load increased that he feared for his life and he is trying to push me away from him. I do love him and it hurts so much that he just gave up on us. He never really give me the exact viral count he's having right now but he told me that the doctors and the National Kidney Institute told him that anytime soon he will be gone.. I am really sad knowing he condemn and isolate himself, he rejected all my calls. My question is how long will a person lives if the Doctor ever told you that anytime soon you'll be gone and you can never be treated.
I really wanted to be there for him no matter what.. Please..
Hi there;
First of all, wanted to say that your testimonial really touched me to the point i had eyes welling up with tears by the time i reached the end of it.
Every situation is different and no one can know for sure what anyone else feels deep inside even if he carries the same illness.
This being said, i am a hep B carrier since at least two and a half years - active chronic hep B - and i can tell you that i did my entourage the same thing your BF did to you, pushing em away. My purpose was - and still is - to keep em away from seeing me iuch a terrible condition, sinking to rise no more. If something bad happens i definitly don't want them to remember me as the one they been visiting to the hospital because i want to remain the one they laugh with, smile with, party with. To put it in a nutshell, if something happens i want nothing but great memories of me in their mind.
On a side note - this was actually your question - a nurse told me that she "lost" a hep B carrier only one month after he volontarily stopped his treatment. They did try everything to keep him alive, from monitoring his viral load on day to day basis to performing a liver transplant....
In the same time, i stopped mine for about fiveteen months and i am still here, resumed it right after nurse's story though!!!!!
Stay strong & don't forget that those hepatitis really mess up one's brain.
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Hi soolonely and others suffering because of hepatitis diagnosis,
I have had chronic hepatitis for 30 years due to no fault of my own. About 15 years ago a doctor actually told me to get my affairs in order due to my huge viral load, but tests show that my liver is fine. Viral load by itself does not spell doom.
I'm so sorry for what you all and your loved ones are going through. Hepatitis is one of the latest big scares. But it's very often livable. And uninfected loved ones can get the Hep A & B vaccinations. No one should pile fear on a patient...it needlessly adds stress! There is so much misinformation and fear out there, but unless one is at the very end stage liver failure and do not have a transplant option, really there is a lot of hope.
First, one needs a Hepatic (liver) specialist, not a kidney specialist. Interferon is being successfully used on chronic Hep B patients. The viral load number does not indicate whether there is actual liver damage.
What stresses the liver besides alcohol is pesticides, chemicals, smoke (any kind of smoke), prescription and over the counter meds, hormones that were added to animals used for food, meat, poultry, milk, eggs, dairy products, etc.
We need to stay away from smoke, eat organic foods that have no pesticides or hormones, use soaps, etc. that are hypo allergenic, keep chemicals off our skin and don't breath fumes from anything or take chemicals internally as much as possible. Organic food is quite affordable nowadays. And a lot healthier.
Also the supplement protocol that protects the liver is Alpha Lipoic Acid, Selenium and milk Thistle. People that were dying from liver failure actually recovered using these supplements, so I use them daily and have for years.
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