That is terrible what your doctor said! Only you know what you are feeling. Like aaronsgma1 said, there are definitely issues with mesh, so that could be a possibility. Can you see another doctor and get a second opinion? It's worth asking to see what someone else thinks.
I had a hernia repair for 2 inguinal hernias almost 3 years ago and have some tough days. I love to work out, but doing anything with squats and lunges is becoming a challenge. When my bladder is full, it sometimes feels like my muscles are being pulled so hard. I did NOT get any mesh. I think there is just a bit of a pull on that area due to the repair, and I was fully aware of the risks. I was about to post to see if there is anything I can do to help. I tend to hear more painful stories about those who had repairs involving mesh