contagious sores or everything? - Herpes Message Board

serialnovelist · 01-28-2004, 02:05 PM

this may be a really stupid question, butmy girlfriend and i were discussing alternatives to sex because of outbreaks and viral shedding which i don't know a whole lot about the viral shedding thing.

but it's my understanding that only the sores are contagious and your not contagious if your not having an outbreak or beginning one or just getting over one.

She's worried about getting it elsewhere on her, other than where we both have it. I assume that bodily fluids are not contagious ?

we're both planning on using protection of course even with each other, we don't want to get this any worse than we already have it, if that's possible.

earthchick · 01-29-2004, 06:58 AM

My gyno said that you can't reinfect each other with the same virus, that being said, i've also read that you can spread the same virus to un infected areas. like from the genitals to the mouth. Read the message baord some more ,I read that somewhere on here though I can't remember excactly which message. it's best to use protection, though it's not 100%, my boyfriend and i used protection and we still have it.

backpacker · 01-29-2004, 04:37 PM

You can't get the virus new all over again, but you can get it in a different place, which to us is pretty much the same thing. So it pays to be careful.

The viral shedding is something that happens very infrequently and supposedly without symptoms. But my soulmate and I (I have it genitally; he doesn't at all) have never given up oral sex and we only use condoms for birth control. We don't have sex during ob's (although I will do stuff to him) ever, and he always, always washes up immediately after any kind of sex where he touched my genitals. During ob's we do other loving and close things together.

I wouldn't suggest relying on condoms to protect you during ob's, not after reading how many people have gotten it when they thought they were protected.

Serialnovelist, nothing is a stupid question here!

serialnovelist · 01-29-2004, 04:46 PM

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Originally Posted by backpacker

You can't get the virus new all over again,
Serialnovelist, nothing is a stupid question here!

Well her and both have it genitally and i was trying to be as tactful as i could with my post

my concern was if we're both not broken out and feeling okay and umm my ummm fluid gets on her body elswhere, that she can't breakout somewhere else...

my doctor mentioned something about building up antibodies and once you do it's almost impossible to infect yourself or your partner elsewhere where they don't have it. I know it's possible to spread it from the genital to the oral area but if i'm not mistaken you can't get it anywhere other than those two places ? and it's the sores not things like semen or vaginal fluid that are contagious, logically if that were the case then you'd be contagious all the time? lol is anyone getting the jist of what i'm trying to ask here ?

Ornament · 01-29-2004, 07:17 PM

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Originally Posted by serialnovelist

Well her and both have it genitally and i was trying to be as tactful as i could with my post

my concern was if we're both not broken out and feeling okay and umm my ummm fluid gets on her body elswhere, that she can't breakout somewhere else...

my doctor mentioned something about building up antibodies and once you do it's almost impossible to infect yourself or your partner elsewhere where they don't have it. I know it's possible to spread it from the genital to the oral area but if i'm not mistaken you can't get it anywhere other than those two places ? and it's the sores not things like semen or vaginal fluid that are contagious, logically if that were the case then you'd be contagious all the time? lol is anyone getting the jist of what i'm trying to ask here ?

Hey Serial....

Ok, I'm stupid, nah not really....but, what is the jist of it????? Are you talking other [I]cavernous places.....Hmmmm, need more info., to better understand.....-Orn.[I]