Malvoe

I have posted several times here in the last 3 weeks, so sorry if this is repetative. This all started after getting a "hand job" (sorry) from a girl 2 months after last oral sex, 6 months after last sex. I have had extreme tenderness (fades in and out, going away for 20 min, several hours, or even a day) and a small red area on the very edge of the head of my penis the entire time (am circumsized). Urologist gave me lotrizone (corticosteroid can exacerbate herpes), which seemed to work at first, but then things retuned to same (but not worse). Went to derm tuesday for blood test, gave me Protopic cream (can also exacerbate herpes). Have applied 5 times, red area and pain remains. I will know in 6 days the results of IgG blood test. I guess I have a few questions: 1) Does this sound like any of your symptoms, isn't 3 1/2 weeks a long time? 2) Any advice for helping relieve pain? 3) Do you think I should call Dr and ask for Valtrex rx in the meantime and stop using the cream? I know you aren't Drs, but I could really use some advice, b/c my Dr's just haven't been helpful or knowledgable so far. Thank you so much.
Oh, also, does the initial outbreak always show up at the exact area of infection? (ie head vs shaft vs base)