backpacker

The anus is so close to the rest down there that I wouldn't take the chance. The best, safest policy is never to have sex when the other has or might be having an ob. (My ob's have also migrated over the years back toward my anus. Weird.)

About getting pregnant, it's easier if you know when you ovulate. I learned this from the midwives after having my first baby. It's different for different women, but generally after your period ends you check yourself every day for the type of mucous in your vagina. (Disclaimer: All those uninterested read no further.) I put two fingers up inside, then take them out and look while separating them. White, pasty (like the old paste used in preschool) mucous or very little mucous means nothing is happening yet. Mucous that looks and feels like raw egg whites means you are going to ovulate soon. Keep checking every day. When the mucous changes back to pasty or nothing, it means you ovulated the day before. So if you're trying to get pregnant, try to have sex any time during the egg-white mucous stage, or within a couple of days of ovulation. Of course, your body may be different, may be harder to tell than with mine. And a warning to those who may decide to use this for birth control: some months you may ovulate twice, and from the fourth day of your period until four days after the day of ovulation it is definitely not safe.

Good luck, lbp!