Torfado

I have been in a serious relationship with someone for two years. For the past month or so she has started to distance herself from me a little bit. Around two weeks ago she started to develop redness and pain in her vaginal area. It was followed by a discharge. She went to her Dr. and he treated her for a yeast infection without even looking at her. He said the symptoms sounded like yeast and so he treated her for it.

Well two days later the bumps started, along with the itching and burning during urination. I talked her into going to the emergency room after work. She called me about three hours later crying, my worst fear had come true. It turns about a few weeks ago she got drunk while out with her friends. She ended up going home with a guy and having unprotected sex. I knew my girlfriend had control issues when she drank, but never thought it would escalate to this. She confessed that she had slept with him and that she had genital herpes. Now imagine being told that the love of your life slept with a random person from a bar. As if that weren't bad enough you have to hear that she got herpes from the encounter.

My first thoughts were about her well being. I love her too much to get mad about a mistake. She confessed, at least she told me. Better late then never I guess. She told me that it was up to me where we were going to go from here. I don't want to lose her over this so I said that we would get through it. Now I am thinking about when the outbreak goes away. What is our sex life going to be like? We both got tested before the first time we had sex and came back negative for everything. We never used protection. I'm afraid this is going to ruin that. I guess I'm looking for some encouragement or happy endings to lift my spirits and help me realize that it can be ok. I know herpes isn't life ending, I guess it will just always be a constant reminder to the both of us as to what just happened.

Anyone have any good news for me? I'm going crazy over here. And thanks for listening to me rant. I can't talk to anyone we know because I'm afraid they will think ill of her. I don't want our friends or families looking at her any different. She is a great girl that just made a really bad choice.

Also, can anyone give any tips on making her feel more comfortable with this? I'm dying watching her squirm in pain and from the itching. It's eating me up to see her go through this. I have made a ton of midnight trips to the store to pick up things the doctor suggested (benadryl, alavert, hydrocortizone etc..). Also any tips on things to point out to her to make her feel less dirty? She is really coming down on herself hard about this. She keeps calling herself a dirty *****. I hate seeing her like this.