New to the virus - Herpes Message Board

nge32032 · 01-08-2005, 02:44 PM

I just found out that i had HPV 2 (genital herpes). I'm still struggling to grasp what has happened to me. But I need some help finding physical relief. I know that the first outbreak is the worst, but I need help getting through it. The flu-like symptoms have begun to go away and I am taking Valtrex, but I need something to take away the pain of the bumps. I cannot walk around and feel like I am trapped in my own home. To make matters worse, my parents hate me for this, especially my father, and he refuses to talk to me. I do not know how my life is ever going to go back to normal.

FitChic · 01-08-2005, 03:28 PM

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Originally Posted by nge32032

I just found out that i had HPV 2 (genital herpes). I'm still struggling to grasp what has happened to me. But I need some help finding physical relief. I know that the first outbreak is the worst, but I need help getting through it. The flu-like symptoms have begun to go away and I am taking Valtrex, but I need something to take away the pain of the bumps. I cannot walk around and feel like I am trapped in my own home. To make matters worse, my parents hate me for this, especially my father, and he refuses to talk to me. I do not know how my life is ever going to go back to normal.

i felt just like you, when i got diagonsed in July 04.......i did not want to accept this reality.......i was in so much pain like you, i could barely take a shower, it was so painful......i couldnt walk, i couldnt move basically.........i hated the person who gave this to me, i hated everyone around me.......but i especially hated myself

Well.........that was 6 months ago........and i promise........it does get better!!.........i have been outbreak-free since that first one.......with no suppsessive therpy (meaning i dont need to take a pill everyday).........time will heal...you will come to accept this and move on...........i promise............get thur the first 2 weeks or so, the inital shock is the worst..........it can only get better from here.......dont let it stop you from doing anything you want...........

curiousgal · 01-08-2005, 03:58 PM

Hi I am so sorry you are feeling this way, I know exactley how u feel because I felt the same. Be easy on yourself this feeling will pass, but it does take time. The most important thing u can do for yourself is take care of u. Please try to get some rest this nasty skin virus loves us to get stressed. Try to get some aloe gel or dsmo to get the pain to calm down. Also some people try tree tea oil, read some of the past posts about what to use. Please come to this board to help u, all the people here are in the same boat but there is so much support here, everyone is wonderful and pretty understanding to how u feel. Please take care and I hope you will be feeling better.

backpacker · 01-08-2005, 07:38 PM

Listen, go down into the kitchen, get the smallest container you can find that has a tight-fitting lid, and one clove of fresh garlic (that is, one section of a whole head of garlic which you can buy in the produce section of the grocery store, and some extra virgin olive oil--it's expensive, but you dont need much. Peel the garlic clove and cut it into quarters. Put it in the container. Cover it with olive oil. Put the lid on and take it to your bathroom. After about 2 hours or so, you can gently apply some to your sores with a q-tip. Just dab it on lightly and don't rub, or it will hurt. You can do this any number of times a day, whenever you want. If anyone mentions the garlic smell, say you've been craving Italian food.

This garlic oil will soothe those sores. It helped me be able to jog and carry a heavy pack in the mountains even at the height of my ob's. (But none are as bad as the first.) Garlic is antiseptic, antiviral, and antibiotic.

When your ob goes away, throw this out and next time--if there is a next time; hopefully not!--you can make some more, ready in two hours. It is cheap and works well.

I'm sorry about your dad. Parents don't always know how to handle things right. You just keep doing the best you can, be the best person you can be. You can't live up to his rules and fantasies of the perfect child. Just be what you yourself define as a good person. For me, being a good person has little to do with your sexual choices, but for my parents, it does. You make your own choices, and believe in yourself...and try to be understanding--try to understand that your father is just a human, and right now he feels that somehow he didn't do the right thing as a parent, or you wouldn't have gotten h. It's hard for parents to detach from their kids sometimes. But eventually, he'll accept it--just as eventually the ob's won't be so bad, and you will learn a routine for dealing with h, so that you can go about your life.

Read a whole lot of the threads on this board, especially "Happy Couples." Peace and hope!

nge32032 · 01-09-2005, 04:45 PM

All of the advice that I received is very helpful, thank you! I just have one question for backpacker, it is supposed to burn right? When does the burning stop? And how often do you recommend that I apply it? I need to be able to go to school tommarow and be able to walk around without the pain that I experience now.