social stigma - Herpes Message Board

internet! · 01-10-2005, 09:55 PM

Why do people chime in that this disease gets a lot of stigma it doesnt deserve? It definetly does, this sucks more than anything really. I hate the stupid comparisons to someone with cancer friends will make to be comforting. No one laughs if you have cancer, you didnt do anything to contract cancer, and you cant spread it to someone you care about. Id rather be a miserable sexless peice of dogshit than be out pretending this was no big deal and passing it out like candy.

10 months with absolutely no improvement. I cant even put in to words how depressed this crap makes me....especially considering all the people I know out screwing anyone thats willing.

Champ17 · 01-11-2005, 03:25 PM

I feel bad too...Here Iam in my last semster of high school with this crap.I hope I can get it together before I fail out. My parents or no one on earth can do anything for me thats why I feel so bad. Not to note I have been a virgin for almost 18 years and have some thing of this sort. Right now I just don't know people say you can have sex when you have herpes and not hurt your love one. But really chances are you would be better off having sex with somebody that had AIDS.(that is if you wear a condom)

also i would like to say their has to be a cure for this but since herpes is not life threaten they won't put it out

FitChic · 01-11-2005, 04:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Champ17

But really chances are you would be better off having sex with somebody that had AIDS.(that is if you wear a condom)

i'll take Herpes over AIDS anyday..........Thank you...........

unlucky_guy · 01-11-2005, 04:57 PM

Yeah, I know how you feel. I HATE when people say "At least you don't have cancer or AIDS!!!"....thats like telling a guy who just lost 3 limbs that he shouldn't be upset because at least he didn't lose all 4. Point is, Cancer, AIDs, Herpes...all 3 pretty much suck to have.

I've had Herpes for 2 years and I'm still pretty much as depressed as I was on Day 1...and the fact that I haven't had any sort of intimate relationship whatsoever since I found out has really started to catch up with me (both because others weren't accepting, and because I honestly am scared to death to give this to someone else because no one deserves this life-long burden, much less some poor girl who was willing to take a risk on me).

There is in fact a new girl that I have been in love with for a while that finally expressed reciprocal feelings toward me recently...but as hard as it was to do, I blew her off and pretended not to be interested because I felt that she is just "too good" to be with me, and deserves someone who doesn't have this damn disease. Its bad enough I have herpes myself, but knowing that I spread it to some girl I love would be 10 times worse for me. I'm trying to convince myself that I don't need any intimate relationships in my life...but its hard to do. I wish there was some button you could hit to turn those feelings off.

And its hard to do the whole "herpes dating website" thing. There just aren't any girls anywhere close to my area (on top of the websites being ridiculously expensive).

Anyway, I dont know what to tell you other than that we are in the same boat.

FitChic · 01-11-2005, 05:28 PM

i'm sorry some of you guys feel like this.............but as i see it.........yes, i do have this disease.....but hell no, it does not make me any less of a person then the next......you are not less of a person because you have this virus!!!..........please dont think that you are "not good enough" because of this..........

of course, everyone has their down points.......i mean, i def. have too...........but if someone cannot accept this.......then they are not good enough for ME.......end of story........