This question is for those people who are currently (or were in) in a relationship where one of you have H and one doesnt. I am curious what precautions (if any) you take and how long you have been having sex and if you have been able to avoid infecting your partner or it you have now infected them.
I think you've read my story in Happy Couples. I never have sex with him (it's been about 13 years; he's not infected) when I have any symptoms at all, even extreme fatigue; we use lubrication in me, on the outside of me, and on him, to reduce friction; we usually go for gentler sex, also to reduce chances of friction and abrasions; and he washes afterwards with soap and water for over 20 seconds.
I agree w/backpacker! My b/f has had no known signs and ive had herpes since november 04. We too are more "clean" so to speak. We both give and receive oral and have unprotected sex. Afterwards we make our way to the bathroom we wash our hands and genitals brush our teeth...
We also use lube when/if i get a little dry to reduce friction as well!
Just go at your own pace. I allowed my b/f to go with what he was comfortable with. Let him say when he was ready for sex, ready to try oral, ready to have unprotected sex again. It took some time, but it all worked out and we are back on track!