Originally Posted by littlebo
do genital herpes obs always cause pain? (quick reminder of my situation: i've had gh for about 4 years. my bf of 8 months has not had any symptoms; we haven't used condoms for several months now. we just don't do anything if i'm having any symptoms).
recently though, after a weekend together when we were quite "active" he was showering and discovered a small area on his penis that looked like his skin was slightly torn. he wouldn't have noticed it otherwise, no tingling, burning, etc....except when the shower water hit him it did hurt then. after his shower no pain or anything. he assumed we did it during sex when i possibly got to dry (excuse my bluntness)...it healed up within a few days. i told him i thought there was a chance it could have been a gh lesion, but i've told him normally you get tingling, itching, burning...in the area before an ob and he had none of this. has anyone else had a similar experience? or heard of having an ob without usual prodromal symptoms?
Thanks for any responses!
Well, the simple answer is that GH doesn't always hurt, although it often does. I had one big OB at the beginning (I have genital HSV1) or three mini-outbreaks which ran into each other. The first was the classic blister, which had itched and tingled beforehand. The second, a papercut, very fine, barely noticeable when looking but quite painful - but there had been no prodrome. The third OB was a hard bump which was itchy but not painful.
You're right that prodromal symptoms are very common and these might be expected too - although they are also not in all cases. Some people's GH symptoms are very mild. The symptoms in fact tend to be milder in men than in women.
However, there could be other explanations for the irritation to your boyfriend's penis. Do you suffer from thrush at all? (as you probably know, thrush is not strictly an STD but can be passed back and forth between partners).
Unfortunately as I am sure you know, the only way for your bf to be sure whether he has herpes is for him to be tested.