Originally Posted by lietchi
My BF tested negative. Btw, yes he' great
I'm his very first girlfriend (he never even frenchkissed a girl before me) so his getting checked for STDs was just a formality. And I only had one previous relationship, but with a girl, so low risk for STDs too. But herpes is a tricky one...
One of my problems is: my parents still pay for my health care, so I won't be able to get tested without them knowing, so I'd have to find a way around that... All this for a disease I don't even have symptoms of... I think a lot of people worry, simply because it can't be healed. "incurable" is a heavy burden to bear.
I am a lesbian and managed to get probably one of the only two STDs (HPV being the other one) which are passed on between lesbians to any degree of significance
This was after I had had paranoia about passing on HSV to my previous girlfriend as I got cold sores myself
I managed to get HSV1 genitally despite having it orally already as I was getting pretty sick at the time I had oral sex (though I didn't know it!) and my girlfriend's sore was possibly just beginning to form
However, you're right that relationships between women are a low risk for STDs. I would also say that whilst you appear to be very responsible in being concerned about HSV1, that although the virus is not curable, in the vast majority of people it is not a big deal. Most people's genital HSV1 is also less serious than oral HSV1. I have oral HSV1 and have had two outbreaks in the last year. I also have genital HSV1 and have had no outbreaks in the last year, despite this infection being more recent. HSV1 prefers the mouth and even then, in most people it is not a particulalry virulent virus.
A minority of people do suffer badly with HSV1, but they are unlucky. My mother gets at least one cold sore a month which is quite a lot, but she doesn't really look after herself.
As you know, the fact you don't have symptoms of H doesn't mean you don't have it but if I were you I would relax a little bit, educate yourself about the risks and realise that with so many people out there having HSV1, there would be lots of people missing out on oral sex if none of those with HSV1 did it!
To put your mind at rest, could you possibly pay separately for a private herpes test, not on your parents' insurance, or would this not be possible or too expensive? I am in the UK and things work differently here, our health service is quite different to the US.