Hello
I am so sorry about what you have been going through. First off, may I suggest you get a new doctor.
When you say you were tested for everything, what exactly did that entail? Did the doctor take cultures & blood work?
The only way a herpes culture would turn up positive is if you have an active sore, and if it is a healing sore, it may turn up negative.
When I first contracted herpes (I contracted it from oral sex), I had both a culture & blood test. The culture came back positive for herpes, and the blood test came back positive as well, type specific, I contracted type 1 genitally. I have heard that it can take time to show up in your blood, however, not for me.
I do suggest if you did not have a blood test, that you do get one.
Please try to relax, if you do in fact have herpes, stress can bring it on. The next time you have a sore, go to a new doctor for a culture & blood test, it is not that hard to diagnose, if you do have herpes, it will test positive sooner or later. When you had the first sore show up, did you experience flu like symptoms? This is very common with a primary outbreak. There is also USUALLY more than 1 sore.
I hope you find a doctor with more compassion, they should make that a manditory class they have to take, that & common sense! I once went to a doctor for blood tests, and asked to be tested for everything, AIDS, herpes etc... he had no idea I had herpes, there was no need to tell him... when my results came back, he said everything was perfectly fine, I said really? did I test negative for everything? herpes? he told me I tested positive for type 1 which was no big deal, they were only the annoying cold sores you get on your lip, not genital herpes....
could you imagine? this was a doctor saying this!
Best of luck to you, and keep us posted on how your doing.
~good2Bme~