Thanks for the replies and support.
I have two things right now that really concern me. I am trying to not make things bigger than they are but I am having trouble doing that.
First, I am concerned how I will handle the oral sex issue with him. We have not had sex yet. I am concerned about oral sex whether he has an outbreak or not (especially after reading previous posts here). I don't want to make him feel bad or uncomfortable just because he has something that a huge population of people have. I don't know that I don't have it dormant in my system either and don't want to give him genital herpes.
Second, the other night when I noticed the light pink mark on his mouth (when it was too late), hate to be blunt, he had fingered me already. So, there is a chance that he passed it me that way as well. This scares me more than anything right now. I am trying not to worry...if I have it, I have it. I think of the embarrassing trip to the doctor's office...you all have been through this I'm sure.
I wish I could not worry about all of this. I know to be more cautious know. I am always cautious as much as possible. I care about this man very much. I guess I will find out more about him as we get closer to being even more intimate. I think back now over the years of the different boyfriends where kissing was a far as things went. Plus, I think back to times past where I might have shared food, drank after a friend, etc. Then I think, of the three people I have been with, do I really know for sure they didn't have it? After doing the research about herpes, I am surprised I have never had a fever blister or more with the percentage of people with the disease.
Any suggestions on dealing with the oral sex issue in a way that won't make my boyfriend feel bad??? I am trying not to overreact but one can never be too cautious these days. He was very careful last night...no kissing, touching, etc since he has an outbreak. I am glad of that because there are people out there that wouldn't care a bit.