Re: My girlfriend has herpes - how to maintain a healthy sexual relationship with her?
I am bumping up a thread called "Happy Couples" for you. It's a long thread, but please read it. It is all about couples in which one partner does not have herpes and one does, and what they do to protect the herpes-free partner.
You must realize that you can never remove all the risk of catching herpes, no matter what you do. On the other hand, you are safer with someone who knows she has herpes and tries to protect you than with someone who may have it and doesn't even know (many many people do not know because the virus is dormant or because they are in denial), or with someone who knows but is too embarrassed to tell you.
Please read Happy Couples. There's a lot of great advice in it.