Overwhelming with worry - Herpes Message Board

Philly228 · 12-31-2005, 06:03 PM

I'll get right to the point...pardon the graphics..I'm actually really nervous (1st post)...
I had sex with an old friend of mine (who I've been very honest with about my HSV2 status) recently. I would not even have been 'open' to the idea of it if I had seen or felt ANYTHING going on. Not to be overly graphic, but we got a little too enthusiastic. Even though I told him to be careful about the condom, he told me right after that he wasn't. I guess we got a little TOO deep and the c wasn't covering everything. That's the impression I got anyway. I put him in the shower immediately after (sniff...not enough cuddling - ha) Since I wasn't seeing anything or feeling anything like a sore or anything I didn't worry all that much..

I wouldn't be worried so much now, but this morning, I thought maybe I was just sore from the activity - reeeally energetic, ravenous stuff - so I checked it out down there and i saw what looked like my skin had a little cut at the bottom of my vag/labia opening..you know.. the bottom of the outer part. If I didn't know I was HSV+, I would have just thought, "sh**, he ripped me! That was some crazy sex! wow" etc etc.. (it wouldn't surprise me considering some of the stuff he was doing) However, now I'm freaking out.. even if that is not a herpes sore, wouldn't that be VERY dangerous to him? I'm definitely not HIV or anything else..I know for sure. Plus - He**, I have been chaste for over 3yrs (since finding out I was HSV+).
Right now, the whole area is pink and normal - other than the healing small shallow skin cut-looking thing. Even that is pink.

What do you think the chances are that he's going to contract the virus ...considering the non-careful part of what we were doing wasn't long in duration and he cleaned up really soon after any exposure?

I'm PRAYING like crazy... not like we didn't both know the risks, but still... Da**. We've had sex a couple times before (3yrs ago) and he was fine, but I think we were more careful those times. I'm freaking here and I know that's not going to help.. All this worry now..and I can't even enjoy the afterglow. I hate HSV.. da**it. Its like you can't enjoy your sexlife anymore without SERIOUS guilt or worry. I don't want him to get it.

Sukiakachan · 12-31-2005, 06:09 PM

well...cuts or tears can occur due to dryness and streching with sex over a period of time and unless its bleeding accessively i dont think there should be a problem. i mean i dont think just because he touched your blood that it would cause genital warts.

Philly228 · 12-31-2005, 06:22 PM

Pardon...I am new to posting... Isn't HSV a shorter way to say herpes? I don't have the warts.. just the sores (when I do get them, that is).

My con-man ex husband gave me mine (isn't that lovely?).

Anyway- thanks for replying. I REALLY hope you're right.

I guess I did get a little dry (embarrassing)...it'd been a LONG time since I've been with anyone - you know? I waited too long to get any ky out. eeek and I'm old enough to know better...

Sukiakachan · 12-31-2005, 06:27 PM

yeah Hsv is Herpes symplex Virus :3 i wouldnt worry to much hon, stressing yourself esspecially after giving him fair warning isnt a good thing for your body or mind. Dont wrack yourself with guilt, unless he had a cut or something somewhere on him and was exposed to like a teaspoon of blood or something i dont think he could have contracted it esspecially after he washed well.

As for not doing anything for a while, it just shows that you are a very nice person, not wanting to give your virus to others is kind of a sarcifice but its nice you've found someone and as long as your careful im sure you'll be fine. If it doesnt work out there are tons of other fish in the sea and hey one in every four has herpes too hehe

stillme23 · 12-31-2005, 10:11 PM

Sweetie just try and relax, I don't really think you gave it to him, I know it sucks and your all paranoid but he did know the risk involved. and your symptoms could be nothing. Have you told him about this? Are you close enough with him that you can talk to him about it? I wouldn't worry so much about it, relax and get yourself together and maybe have a talk with him. It's the best advice I can offer.