Hello everyone. I'm new to the site. So how does this work - like AA meetings?

"Hello my name is Jaydub and I have genital herpes."
I actually self diagnosed myself and have yet to go to a doctor about the disease. My first outbreak occurred sometime in 2004 or 05. At first I thought the blisters were caused by excessive friction since I play sports so I really didn't focus on when exactly the first outbreak happened. By the 3rd outbreak I was online reading up on what exactly I was dealing with. I came across a site with pictures and I'll be damned that looks exactly like what I've got. Seems like every 4 - 6 months I get the prewarning tingling sensation in the leg followed by blisters on the head of my penis that stick around for 2 - 3 weeks.
The thing is I'm married and my wife has never shown any symptoms of the disease. I'm anonymous on this site so I have no reason to lie when I tell you that I did not cheat on her. I've been having sex with the same woman since 2000. If the disease shows symptoms 2 - 20 days after making contact and my first outbreak was in 04-05, then this would almost certainly mean that I got it from my wife UNLESS the disease stayed dormant in my spinal cord since 2000 when I caught it from a chick I used a condom with??? I did use a public toilet at a "Jack in the Box" where a few homeless folks called home back in 04 0r 05 but I read somewhere that the disease cant' survive for more than a minute outside of a host. As of now my wife and I believe I caught it from the inside of a toilet bowl.
Anyone have any logical thoughts on how I could have gotten this disease.
Thanks for any responses.