One month ago I got diag. with herpes 2. I am devastated. Feel as though I don't have anything to look forward to in my life. What man will ever come near me again? I feel so so stupid for not being aware of this virus. Believe it or not I never realized this was for LIFE. I will be honest, I never even realized alot of things until I got this virus. All the doc. I went to see all deminished my problem, gave no support what so ever, like I was over reacting and rushed me out. 98% of my knowledge came from a computer. This was once ref. to as a "sexual leprosy" yet it's ironic leprosy has a cure if I'm not mistaken, but herpes doesn't. I pray so much that the researchers, pham.co., and all that are included with the process of finding a cure for herpes just hurry up and make it happen. I can't understand if truly all these people are infected, why there isn't a current and a creditable status on a cure for this? How many people have hurt themselves, turned to alcohol, spiraled into other things to try to ease this pain. Not everyone has family, friends or a support sys. I'm just floored at the realization that I feel my life is on hold. I'm alive,but I CAN'T live my life. IM MOURNING MY LIFE FOR GODS SAKE BUT I'M BREATHING!! I can't sleep, eat and all I do is think of my life before the virus. I understand with other diseases and health issues this almost seems unimportant, but emotionally this has destroyed me. I am seeing a therapist. Please someone help me and give me information that I can hang on to give hope that a cure is on it's way.
Hi...I have felt exactly as u have and I was especially devastated when I learnt that herpes can be potentially alot more serious than what the docs just shrug off......I'd advise u to learn about potential complications as it is imp. to be informed. I won't list them here since I don't want to depress u further....but just read up on them when u are feeling less vulnerable.
I have alternated between periods of hope and trying to psyche myself to feel brave and then shifted to periods of really dark despair.....what makes me especially angry is that unless I had sat for hours on the internet to educate myself, nobody wud have told me all that one shud know about this virus. It is an ugly situation.
Most of the times I hinge on thoughts that maybe just maybe a cure will be had in the near future......I too fail to understand why the health establishment is not making this a bigger priority than what it has , according to whatever i have read on the net. I think it is outrageous.
Today I was checking and rechecking for any new developments at the companies that are researching this. The most promising thing that I have found is of hope for a potentially therapeutic vaccine or in other words, a cure
being studied by a researcher at the university of montana . U cud look it up
by googling "herpes vaccine at university of montana". now if only scientists like him wud speed up their efforts to begin human trials.
For now I am just going to pray hard for a cure for the sake of all those who are devastated by it, me definitely included.
Blake, Oh my goodness. Darling, I know this isn't great news and that it isn't something that anyone would want for themself. REalize that like any bad news you need time to absorb it and discover the way in which you WILL cope with it. Give yourself that time.
Meanwhile, Listen!!! I don't know how old you are but I have known so many loved ones that have contracted Herpes. Don't listen to those negative, antiquated notions of the disease. SO many people have this virus. I see advertisements on TV for herpes medications.
I have it in the form of cold sores on my face. They are awful, embarrassing and the whole nine yards. I have one as I write to you.
My roommate/bestfriend in college and my little sister have Herpes 2. They both felt like you did too. You'll get over it. You said it. There are diseases out there that are so much more serious and maybe that is why the dr. didn't treat you the way you expected or wanted. I'm not saying the he/she should have rushed you out but compared to some of the diagnosis they make... this one will not end your life.
My advice to you is to give yourself time. BE honest with yourself. Remind yourself that you are still the same person you were before the diagnosis and that now you just have something that has challenged you in your life. WE all have bad things happen to us. It is part of life. I don't know how old you are but today I turn 40 (at 5pm). Still 39, hee-hee.
Yes, things are going to be a little different now in that you are going to have to use some coping skills and DEAL with the pain(when it happens, some people don't have many outbreaks at all)and the ability to be honest and open when you enter a relationship that you think is significant. I doubt you are into one night stands and so when the guy comes along that you are getting serious about-be open and honest with him. Teach him about the disease, be open, ask him how he feels, answer his questions and if he is worth his weight in salt,he'll handle it. My sister contracted it when she was out and dating. She is a beautiful, smart and independent gal. She continued to date ALL the time and got really good at being HONEST with guys whe dated. The ball leaves your court at that time and you play it from there. That's all you can do. It is the right thing to do and you'll feel good about that.
My sister is now married(attorney) and is pregnant with her first baby. She can deliver vaginally with preventive med. My roommate is also married and has 2 babies that she delivered vaginally. So, my friend, cheer up. Be strong and realize that life is an experience both positive and negative. The only thing you can do is to choose to let it get you or you get it!. Talk to your therapist about coping skills. Develop them. Grab this challenge and don't be afraid of "never dating again". Your just going to have to be an open, confident, honest dater. Not that you aren't already, you know what I mean. So, as I go on and on....I will finish by saying that I know you will get past this. If you need to talk more. I'll checkin. Be strong and hang in there. bellalilly
I know exactly how you feel, I also found out about a month ago. I couldn't stop crying. I thought about going for counseling also. I didn't know anything about it either. I didn't know you could get it from me partner having a cold sore. Like you, my Dr. didn't tell me a thing, no support just told me and out the door I went. Since then I have read alot about it on the computer. My BF isn't really that supportive. He was when I was crying all he time but now that I'm not so much, he thinks I'm over it. I will never be over it. I still can't believe I have this and its forever. I never really thought about this disease and how it can alter your life. So I understand when you say you are mourning life. All the crying and screaming is not going to change the fact that we have this, so we can either fight it or accept this fact and do the best we can. Keep your head up
Get counceling if you thought of it. Do it!! I have so many emotions and I am angry so angry at myself for allowing this to happen. I was blind to getting help keeping the person that gave me this away. I let my good nature blind me to something that other women would have seen a mile away. I feel so stupid. He was smart and took advantage of a weak person. Being so alone and not having people to protect me, I was blind . not talking to anybody and when I did speak it was the wrong person, this coworker took it as a joke. I was over my head. I thought I was tough and could handle things, but I wasnt. I now have something that will remind me of how evil people are and how now I paid an ultimate price for my stupidity. I blame myself for allowing a process that ended in disaster and I believe this person knew he had this and didn't say it. That's evil just evil. Not only do I have major regrets, I have a virus for life and I also have to see this person periodicaly and theres nothing I can do. I pray God heals me and gives me strenth because I can't do this alone.
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