New here - freaking out... - Herpes Message Board

susan75 · 08-02-2007, 08:06 AM

About a week and a half ago, I got some cold sores in my mouth, which I get fairly often and I contribute them to stress. I had mono last year so my immune system is pretty much shot.

On top of the mouth sores, I have an ear infection so I'm on decongestant and the antibiotic Augmentin. So far, the sores are ONLY in my mouth (3 of them)

Last night, my boyfriend and I had sex and not 5 minutes later, he had all these bumps all over his chest, stomach, penis, testicles, inner thigh, etc. We were both freaking out. They didn't itch or burn, and looked like hives or flat mosquito bites. I did not perform oral sex, not was there even any kissing. I spoke to him this morning and he says they're gone now. Before he came over to my house though, he had a bunch of little pimple-like bumps on his back and upper chest. He had these prior to us having sex

Did I cause the outbreak after sex??? Did I give him oral herpes some way??Maybe I have genital sores and just don't know it yet. Or, maybe he's having a reaction to something else and during intercourse it just flared up?

Should I contact my doctor to confirm I have oral herpes?

Thanks for any advice - I'm about 2 seconds away from an anxiety attack

catharine101 · 08-02-2007, 11:55 AM

If you get cold sores, you have oral herpes. That's what cold sores are. The Dr. can test you to see what strain you might have.

As for transfer, your boyfriends skin reaction is probably not due to the sex you had (that day). It takes 3 - 7 days for a herpes outbreak to generate after contact - if it shows up at all and doesn't stay "dormant" in the new hosts system.

It's possible that if you had sex previously, that it might be a reaction to a previous encounter, but the symptoms seem a bit off, what with the rash being pretty much everywhere. Seems like a good idea to me for your boyfriend to see a Dr. regardless.

Luck!!

JAILYN12 · 08-02-2007, 10:25 PM

I get cold sores on the corner of my lips. I usually get them when I have a cold or am sick. It is considered a form of herpes, but I don't think it is sexual. I think instead of the cold getting worse It comes out in a cold sore.

I have been with my husband for 5 years and he has never contracted it. We have had sex when I have had an outbreak. I think cold sores in your mouth are just ulcers anyway. If it is on your lips then I think it is herpes.