Scared, confused - Herpes Message Board

Jem0316 · 10-16-2007, 12:40 PM

I was diagnosed with herpes about 6 months ago. My boyfriend at the time was the one who gave it to me. We just broke up, I think he knew he had it all along because I have heard some things from different people

Now that we arent together I am having such a hard time dealing with it. How do I go about having relationships from now on. Won't the boy just run everytime i tell him something like that? I recently hung out with one of my long time best guy friends and he tried to kiss me and i just told him no because im so scared of giving him something (even though mine is genital). I dont even know where to begin. What if me and him started dating. Wouldn't he think I was such a dirty person for having somethign like this? I dont even know what I can and cant do sexually. And if I use condomns when I dont have an outbreak and when I am taking valtrex what are the chances that I can pass on the disease. I am just so mad at myself that I let someone fool me like this. Any advice would be great. Thanks so much

thirysomething · 10-17-2007, 11:57 AM

Jem,
You probably have spike up a concern with the friend who tried to kiss you. Maybe you should start with talking to him. Even if it doesn't turn into something like an intimate relationship. It is good to have someone to talk to and if he is a good friend he will likely stay by your side. In the end you will at least have someone to confide in and help you get thru the difficulty of this. Try not to let allow the herpes to define who you are as a person. however, use caution and always be honest.