Re: Just Got "The Phonecall" From My Ex.
Herpes is a very very common virus, with a very bad rap and social stigma.
Do you research on Herpes, I suggest reading the 'Herpes HandBook' from Terri Warren. It's a long read, but very informative.
Some basic info; Herpes Simplex Virus (HSV) comes in two types, HSV1 and HSV2. The norm is oral HSV1 and Genital HSV2. However, you can have either type, HSV1 or HSV2 in either and or both location, Oral or Genital.
60-80% of the world population has oral HSV1 also known as coldsores or fever blisters, many getting it as children when getting kissed from a family member. 25% of the adult population has genital HSV2, yet 90% don't know it cause the symptoms are so mild they go unnoticed or misdiagnosed as yeast or jock itch. Next time you're at the office or school, look around, if there are 100 people in your class/office, 25 will have genital herpes, but only 2 will know it.
Not having symptoms means nothing. You, couples, can go years, even 10-15 years, without knowing.
Don't assume your doctor is up to speed on Herpes or proper testing, many are not. You don't need symptoms to get blood tested. And yes you can get tested now.
The proper test is an IgG type specific blood test, HerpeSelect is the most common brand. Skip the older IgM test, those results are worthless. If your doctor order an IgM test, make him/her pay for it. The recommend waiting period is 12-16 weeks post last possible exposure.
A herpes test is not included in a standard STD exam, you have to request it. The doctor may say all your blood work is fine, but it doesn't mean they tested for herpes. Be sure and get hard copies of your results in case you have more questions.
The thing about herpes is there's no way to determine how long you're had it unless you get herpes tested on a regular basis. So, if your test is positive, there no way to tell how long you've had it, if your ex just gave it you, if you gave it to him, or if you both had it prior to meeting each other. There's is no smoking gun and no finger can be pointed. Having symptoms or not having them mean nothing.
Yes, women can still have kids who have HSV.
Do your research!
Using your favorite search tool look up the following:
Herpes Hand Book
Herpes Home Page
IgM worthless test
Proper Herpes testing
Hope this helps