Dating, sigh.... - Herpes Message Board

dkw711 · 05-19-2008, 03:16 PM

So now that I'm single again, I am finding it daunting to begin dating again. It has been 9 months since my diagnosis and I have adapted physically to it I believe. Only one recurrent outbreak in 9 months (HSV Type 1) and I think my body is handling it well. I know it could be worse in this way. But when is the best time to tell someone and how have others handled this area of dating. It is just so frustrating. And if anyone has experiences they would like to share, I would love to hear this, good or bad. I know I have read some positive stories on here about couples dating for years and it's no big deal. But hitting the dating scene again is scary and can anybody relate or share in this area? Thanks!

rosequartz · 05-19-2008, 03:28 PM

they have on-line dating sites for people with herpes. I'd try one of them if I were you

dkw711 · 05-20-2008, 09:44 PM

Rosequartz,

I appreciate the suggestion, but also do not want to limit my possibilities either. I know there are people who have had success dating in general and would love to know advice on how to handle this.

jblnde · 05-21-2008, 04:51 PM

You know, I've been wondering the same thing. Do you just date people just as before diagnosis and then tell them after getting to know them (before sleeping with/fooling around with, of course!)? Do you only date others with herpes?
I know if I didn't have it and found out someone I was seeing had it, I probably wouldn't risk fooling around with them.

rosequartz · 05-21-2008, 10:23 PM

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Originally Posted by dkw711

Rosequartz,

I appreciate the suggestion, but also do not want to limit my possibilities either. I know there are people who have had success dating in general and would love to know advice on how to handle this.

I don't get this....how are you limiting your possibilities? I'm guessing the members of those sites are as diverse as the ones on any other sites, or even in real life. All kinds of people get herpes. I just thought it would be one less source of stress.....wondering how and when to break the news to them.....and less chance of rejection. It sounds like a win/win scenario to me.