Single and Scared - Herpes Message Board

Courty · 05-25-2008, 02:34 PM

Well the boyfriend who gave me herpes dumped me so much for the I want to be with you forever. And the worse part he cheated on me. He said I will never find a relationship because I am so insecure , but now I think there is more then one reason. I feel so depressed not only did I loose who I thought was my soulmate, btu now i'm stuck with herpes. I just don't believe in love anymore.

Ducky74 · 05-25-2008, 04:12 PM

Don't give up hope Courty! I know you are hurting right now and that the pain is fresh, but as time goes on you will be able to get over him and realize that if he did this to you, then you will be better off without him. I will tell you what made me feel better after my ex and I split...it was going on with my life and making a better life for myself then when I was with him. I proved to him I didn't need him and that I had everything else to offer someone that deserved it. Sometimes it takes getting dumped to find what you were really meant to have. When you do find the right one, you will look back on this relationship and realize that it was a temporary step into getting you to the one that is right for you.

You will find someone else out there that is able to love you for the person that you are....you know yourself that you are not defined by what you have and you have a lot to offer someone. This condition will only help you take your time before jumping into a relationship to make sure it is right for you.

I know that right now amidst the hurt this can sound way to optimistic and hopeful, but I really have been through it and can say it will all come true for you one day too. You know you always have all of us in our "club" here to vent and cry to. I'm sure many of us can relate in one way or another and share in your hurt. You're not alone, even though you may feel like it. Keep your chin up and keep smiling. Every day wil keep getting better.

qwerty87 · 05-25-2008, 05:49 PM

Dont worry about finding someone else...if a person is worth being with they can overlook something like H, look how many people post on here from relationships like that. There are tons of dating sites for people who have H to make it easy to find someone as well.

Courty · 05-25-2008, 10:27 PM

Thank you it makes me feel better. You are a very kind person and I appeciate it very much. It just hurts cause I took that risk thinking it would be a forever thing cause thats how I felt about him and it turns out he just used me.

My friends are trying to tell me this happended for a reason cause I can't choose the right guy and htis way the perosn has to be a good person to accept me. I just feel so lost and lonely

Lostiefan1 · 05-28-2008, 10:01 AM

I'm so sorry Courty that this happend to you. But i agee with some of the comments people have said, may be this person wasn't the one for you? And this happend so you'll find 'the one' and trust me, he'll be everything you ever wanted. His gonna love you no matter what. Just don't be down on yourself, things will get better, trust me. Just surround yourself with people that love you and care about you. Go out with you girlfriends and have fun. Well i hope your feeling better! Take care and we'll be here for you or anyone who needs help!