Sex After Herpes - Herpes Message Board

kollegeqt · 12-03-2002, 06:37 PM

Ok, now I have a problem, as a young college student, now with herpes, I find myself to be very sexually frustrated and wanting to have sex with a new person that has entered my life. He doesn't have it, but he knows that I do. He still wants to have unprotected sex, but I don't think we should. I have read the posts on here and i see that a lot of people are having sex unprotected. I just want to know how long do I have to have herpes before I know my patterns. I have only had one outbreak, it was the first one. And that was 3 months ago. Should I wait a year before I have unprotected sex again? I know and he knows that he still can get it if we use protection

devastated · 12-04-2002, 11:59 AM

I don't think waiting a certain time before having unprotected sex would do anything at all. Do you know if you have type 1 or 2? If you don't know, you should find out because if you have type 1, there is a good chance he already will have antibodies for type 1 (the type that typically causes cold sores), and thus, would have pretty good protection from getting it genitally from you. If you have type 2, and you guys are really serious about not using protection, have him go get a test to see if he has antibodies to either type. You never know, he may already have been exposed to one or even both, and just never had any symptoms. My boyfriend, who gave it to me, never had any symptonms of either coldsores or genital sores at all, and still never has, but yet he does have it. Good luck

kollegeqt · 12-04-2002, 04:50 PM

I have type 1 and the guy who gave it to me also does not have any symptoms. Hopefully he has the antibodies because I last night we did not use protection. I offered several times, but he does not care. Thanx for the advice.

Determined0901 · 07-15-2003, 12:46 PM

Hey Kollegeqt~
Im a student too just diagnosed about two months ago. I think that I contracted hsv1 genitally from my bf about a year ago because my new boyfriend has been tested many times and always comes up negative. Anyways. I'm not saying that this is always the case but we've been having unprotected sex for almost a year now and he has shown no signs of being infected with this virus. My doctor says that it's harder to pass on hsv1 because most people have it but never show symptoms. This means their bodies have already built up an antibodie against the virus. I'm not a medical expert but I just wanted to share the information I got.
Hope this helps
Determined0901

bob16 · 07-15-2003, 06:45 PM

i got herpes last summer when my girlfriend and i broke up for about two months i went out and got really drunk one night and started to receiving oral sex from a women before i made her stop. her mouth was on my unit for no more than 10 sec. and i did not realize i could contract herpes in this manner. well anyways a week later i had a red bump on my gentials and did not relize what it was. my girlfriend and i have sense gottn back together. since she was on the pill and i did not relize what i had we were having unprotected sex for about 7 months and she does not have herpes. so just wanted to share my story on this topic, sense then we know use condoms.