possiblility of oral sex?? future relationships?? - Herpes Message Board

ajsmomx3 · 08-11-2008, 08:31 AM

Is there any possiblilty of oral sex ever again?? I've had g.h. for about a month now...

My daughter's dad and I (seperated) are now talking and trying to rekindle our old flames..can anyone give me some advice on how to break the news?? He also refuses a condom, which is stupid and caused a big fight..He thinks because we had been together so long that it is not neccessary..(also stupid) I contracted this in a short relationship after we were seperated...All i can think is the worst in telling him..but I know he has to know if we ae going to be together again..help??

Truthseek · 08-11-2008, 05:52 PM

Look for the herpes handbook. It has a section on how to inform a partner. But your husband could already have it so perhaps he should be tested also.

kilgore52 · 08-11-2008, 06:05 PM

I feel your pain. It is so humilitating to have to think about not being comfortable with your partner. Hiding it from him or subjecting him to the virus. She is right, he could have it also or maybe gave it to you before and it just now showed up. My opinion is that if you have herpes and either one has oral sex then you could both get it on your face even from kissing afterwards. Sadly, oral is a risk that a lot of people with herpes avoid.

ajsmomx3 · 08-11-2008, 07:17 PM

thank you..I just ordered the handbook today..Im soo scared of telling him...as well as anyone else..

realempress · 08-11-2008, 07:29 PM

You Just Have To Keep It Real Becus U Won Like Someone To Not Tell U About The Virus They Have