Married 6yrs & recently diagnosed with Herpes - Herpes Message Board

lmidgetx · 08-13-2008, 09:11 PM

Ok, so I am so confused and devastated. I am suffering with my second outbreak since I was diagnosed back in April. I have been with my man for 6 years and in April of 08 I was diagnosed with Herpes. I have been tested before with negative results. I don't understand. Although, I do have to tell that last year he revealed to me that his ex has herpes and she didn't tell him until after they where married. HA! Anyhow, about 2 years ago I started having problems with chronic yeast infections and was tested for EVERY STD and nothing came out positive. So I am just completely beside myself as to how now I have herpes? Can he be a career and just passed it on to me. Or can the virus just sit dormant for years and I've always had it and because of my problems with yeast infection it trigged an outbreak. I just really am confused and my doctor is no help. Can some please shed some light on this? Oh and yes he has been tested (blood) for Herpes and he was negative.

kilgore52 · 08-13-2008, 11:25 PM

more than likely he passed it on to you as a carrier since his ex has it. you just had an ob later due to your immune system. answering your question: i think you are right with your answers that you came up with.

Truthseek · 08-14-2008, 05:47 AM

First you say he was tested. Do you know what type of test he had? Was it a type specific IgG test (not IgM as that test is not reliable)? Did you see the results yourself?

There seems to be some confusion on 'carrier'. If he is negative then he can't be a 'carrier' because he does not have it.

If he was positive but does not experience symptoms then he is what they call "asymptomatic" meaning no symptoms. I.E. No symptoms but still has the virus.

So it could be that you had it. Yeast and UTI infections often mimic/show up at the same time herpes is active. We women have WAY to much going on down there and anything that upsets that delicate balance can cause chaos.

lmidgetx · 08-14-2008, 07:44 PM

Thank you for your reply and to answer your question no I did not see the results and I am not sure which test was done. I am going by what my husband told me my OB/Gyn doctor told him.
But lets say he is not a carrier (being that we are not sure). I was tested in april of 2007 for Herpes and I was negative. It was a culture test because at the time I was having a yeast infection and so the OB/Gyn was baffled as to why it kept coming back so often. I mean like literally every time I had sex I would get an infection. So from there she did a multitude of tests and all came out negative for any STD's. How is it possible then for me to have herpes now.
Yes I am having some emotional and psychological problems with this at the moment and I want answers. Yes I am see a counselor just incase you are wondering.
Anyhow, so once there is an outbreak, how long do they last? And can I do to help the healing along? I keep clean and take my meds and use my creams but it feels like they don't really do much or work fast enough. I guess I am expecting instant relief. This outbreak has lasted a little over a week and I don't know what I need to do or not do.

lmidgetx · 08-14-2008, 07:54 PM

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Originally Posted by SeekingTruth4Al

First you say he was tested. Do you know what type of test he had? Was it a type specific IgG test (not IgM as that test is not reliable)? Did you see the results yourself?

There seems to be some confusion on 'carrier'. If he is negative then he can't be a 'carrier' because he does not have it.

If he was positive but does not experience symptoms then he is what they call "asymptomatic" meaning no symptoms. I.E. No symptoms but still has the virus.

So it could be that you had it. Yeast and UTI infections often mimic/show up at the same time herpes is active. We women have WAY to much going on down there and anything that upsets that delicate balance can cause chaos.

Thank you for your reply and to answer your question no I did not see the results and I am not sure which test was done. I am going by what my husband told me my OB/Gyn doctor told him.
But lets say he is not a carrier (being that we are not sure). I was tested in april of 2007 for Herpes and I was negative. It was a culture test because at the time I was having a yeast infection and so the OB/Gyn was baffled as to why it kept coming back so often. I mean like literally every time I had sex I would get an infection. So from there she did a multitude of tests and all came out negative for any STD's. How is it possible then for me to have herpes now.
Yes I am having some emotional and psychological problems with this at the moment and I want answers. Yes I am see a counselor just incase you are wondering.
Anyhow, so once there is an outbreak, how long do they last? And can I do to help the healing along? I keep clean and take my meds and use my creams but it feels like they don't really do much or work fast enough. I guess I am expecting instant relief. This outbreak has lasted a little over a week and I don't know what I need to do or not do.