I am afraid that I pass h on to my partner. I caught it from an ex who I think knew he had it but never informed me. I confronted him about it and he claims he did not know he had it but from his reaction, I have a feeling he knew about it. he has refused to ge tested. I have dealt with this for over 2 years and for the most part I have abstain from sex. I have so much shame and I have never really delt with this. I saw a counselor for a bit but I stopped. I am so ashamed of this and I can't believe how stupid I was to engage in unprotected sex . I am ashamed and terrify because I have had sex but did not informed my partners. I know I should but I can't seem to get the words together to tell. I insisted on using condoms but a few times I have not due to pressure from my partners. I can't believe I let myself go unprotected again. I feel so horrible. I started a new relationship and we had sex 3 time and 2 of those times were without condoms. I am taking valtrax suppression but I only been on it for a week prior to contact. my partner have completely cut me out. I don't know for sure if I exposed them to this because I am unable to reach this person and they refused to call me or talk to me. I don't know the reason for this but I suspect it is because I exposed them to this. I am devasted and I feel horrible. I did not want to expose anyone to this horrible thing that I have been expose to. I can't concentrate, can't eat, can't sleep, and I cry constantly. I don't know what to do and I don't know for sure since I have not been able to talk to my partner but I think this is the reason. What else could it be, as everything was going well. I feel like the scum of the earth and I have so much guilt. I don't think I will every have sex again. its has brought me nothing but pain. Can someone tell me what the possibility of passing the virus with no symptoms and taking 2 valtrax 500 daily to someone else. I feel so devasted. I am ashamed. It's bad enough I have to be stuck with this curse but I don't know if I can take the guilt of knowing I may have pass it along to someone else.
Hi, I just got diagnosed today that I have herpes 2. I'm so devistated and ashamed.. I don't know when I got the virus, Only have had unprotected sex with 2 partners. I don't know how to tell my current bf that I have this virus!!!! I'm so nervous, and stunned. I've never had an outbreak, just a little pimple but it didn't hurt or anything... so i went to the Obgyn... she took a blood test. and 1 week later i find out on the phone. She is really nice and told me millions of ppl have this virus. I feel like my life is over, how the heck am i supposed to tell the love of my life that I have this, and may have passed it onto him. (i feel so horrible)... I'm so upset I think I have to stop typing now.
But to answer your questions... please know that I"m here for you to talk to... I feel just like you do hun.
Its Very Hard For A Women To Pass To A Man And Taking Valtrex Does Minimize It And Slows The Disease Down. I Take It Everyday To Stop Outbreaks And I Been On It Now 1 Month. I Was Diagnosed 4/21/08 And Still Cant Find The Courage To Tell My Partner, But I Think He Gave It To Me. He Wont Get Tested.
babygirl, it's very easy to pass herpes to a man if thats what you meant. Why would it not? It's passed through a break in the skin whether you are a man or woman. To get to the other posts, how do you know if your current boyfriend already had it and passed it on to you?
lilly grill You should not have unprotected sex. But you have so now you have to deal with this guilt. Try telling yourself everone makes wrong decisions. But we have to know when we are wrong and not make that mistake again. I know it is embarrising. WE all who have it do.If someone insists on unprotected sex and youre too ashamed to tell them why you cant, tell them you dont want to expose yourself to any stds. Then they may realise you are right and not want to take the chance either. I wish someone would have ensisted on protection maybe i would not have gotten this. But whats done is done. They say you can pass it with no signs or symptoms. They say the chances of passing it on meds is reduced. But is still there. What i think you should do is set aside how you feel about having this for a moment think about your past partners how they would feel to find out down the road after possibly exposing this to oters. Do the right thing and tell them so they can be tested and protect future girlfriends. Doing the right thing might hurt at the time because the reaction you may get. But doing so can leave you with a piece of mind that they know and can be tested and protect others from this. Youre not a bad person because you have this. It is hard to accept and deal with but there are so many people going through the same things you are. You will find someone to love you someday who does not care if you have this. My husband doesnt have it he stiil loves me but wont have unprotected sex with me. It hurts to know because i wasnt safe with short term boyfriends i have to use protection with my husband for the rest of my life. But giving it to him would make me feel worse. If you believe in God go to him ask for forgivness and strength. I will say a prayer for you. I have trusted in him to help me through this and he has. I have bipolar and deal with severe depression. My faith has kept me going. I am not on any depression meds. and have not thought about hurting myself which is usually the first thing on my mind when something goes wrong. He takes care of us all if we obey him and trust him. Look to the scripture Matthew tells about his love for us and that he died for our sins so we could live eternally with him. God is the only one who loves us unconditionally. Without judgement and he will forgive us of our sins if we ask and he remembers them no more. But he tells us not to dwell on our past sins. That is why you cant get over this. No one on earth can love you or accept you the way he does. I will keep you in my prayers.