happendtome

i'm trying to understand . i've been reading about herpes , it says that stress bring on the out break. i just found out in november that i have it . i was married for 8 years . my husband passed away two years in march of cancer he was the love of my life. ayear after my husband passed i had sex with one guy. a couple of days after i had a out brake , at the time i did't know what it was . in november it was going around that in his little group of friends that herpes was going around. thats when i went get tested. when i got my results i called and told him . he says he went get tested and that he doesn't have it . this is the part i don't understand. they say that stress bring it on when my husband was dieing i was stress to the max for 9 months while he was dieing and never had an out break. if stress brings it on i sould have had out break after out break.so is this guy lieing to me or what . i'm try to find out the truth . please can someone answer this question for me.