Getting back in the "dating scene" with herpes - Herpes Message Board

ashlysmashly · 05-22-2009, 12:12 AM

Hey. My names Ashly, I am 18 years old and I was diagnosed with genital herpes in December 2008.. the guy who gave it to me new he had it and never told me and we actually used a condom but it broke.. and ya thats what happened.. anyway I have just recently been trying to get back into the dating scene and I am finding it very hard. I had my first 2 rejections now after notifying the guys of my herpes.. and I have dated one guy who accepted it but got freaked out in the long run and we hardly ever had sex and he broke up with me. I have tried going on different websites for dating with herpes but most of them either don't cater to my area (Port Coquitlam,bc, canada) or if they do the members haven't visited the site in months.. so if anyone has any advise or knows of any good dating sites or even events or something could you please let me know cuz all this rejection business is very discouraging.

thanks!

ashly

coping63 · 05-24-2009, 09:18 PM

Try checking out the Happy Couples Thread, someone on their may have some links.

As far as Rejection, I know its hard out there, it is discouraging to say the least, but Don't give up and YOU will find someone who loves you for YOU and the rest will not matter......

Everyone on here has been where you are and some still are, it takes time to find the right person........YOU will..... Take Care

ashlysmashly · 05-29-2009, 02:23 PM

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Originally Posted by coping63

Try checking out the Happy Couples Thread, someone on their may have some links.

As far as Rejection, I know its hard out there, it is discouraging to say the least, but Don't give up and YOU will find someone who loves you for YOU and the rest will not matter......

Everyone on here has been where you are and some still are, it takes time to find the right person........YOU will..... Take Care

THX so much for your positive feed back. I was finding it very difficult to deal with my herpes with all the emotional side effects of it. I'm usually such a strong person emotionally and this just sorta broke me. But joining this site and seeing that I am not alone helps so much I feel such a connection with the people on here even though I don't know any of them in person.

But ya its just nice to not go through it alone.

peace and love
ash

coping63 · 05-31-2009, 10:48 AM

Trust me Chick... You are not and never will be alone... You can reach out anytime, you can even private message if you want, if there is something you don't feel comfortable posting... I am here for Ya!! Many others too.... You hang in there!!!! It will happen, It is a lot to take in, and I feel the same, you go through mega emotions, it is more emotional in some ways then physical!!! you just need to be patient and focus on you first!!!!!

sedulous · 05-31-2009, 12:38 PM

I think most of us have trouble with depression when first diagnosed and during outbreaks. Actually, I wonder if there isn't a connection between activation of the virus, suppression of the immune system and depression, which hasn't really been medically explored.

Like my doctor said, "There's no way to say this gently, herpes stinks." However, you're not at all alone, your body's response to the disease will get more efficient, and over time, the likelihood of transmitting the disease even gets lower.

There are people out there that will look past the disease and see you, and everything you have to offer, and not simply see a "risk."

And really... at worst, it's a disease that won't kill you and after time won't even cause as much discomfort as it does now.