Read Happy Couples Thread & now have questions please

[seeksbliss]

It's very inspirational and I decided to read the Happy Boards because I'm feeling down in the dumps tonight. It's all still new to me, so I guess I need more time. I'm going to be very blunt with my questions and hope they can be answered, but many of them came up after reading the Happy Boards.
#1. - How does one apply, use or drink Garlic Oil and can you buy it anywhere?
#2. - I don't understand what I am reading about vaginal cuts/tears/razor like lines, etc. Is that something a lot of women get from having herpes? Is that part of it, just like an OB is part of it, or do some of you never get that?
#3. Oral sex plays a huge part in our lives. I'm very depressed about the risk for him, esp since he doesn't have herpes 2 like me.
#4. - If I have never had oral herpes, or even a coldsore, but do have herpes 1 & 2, can I give HIM herpes just by going down on him?? Do we shed through our mouths or something? I'm sorry if this is a silly question, but I don't know.
#5. - I keep seeing Vulvar Vesitbulitis mentioned, but people say it is NOT caused by herpes, so it it a coincidence that some women have it??
#6. - I mentioned I just had my first OB two weeks ago and had a quarter size red spot with a lot of little bumps on it. Many said it was mild for a first OB, but someone else just said that a quarter is a big size for an OB. That would seem big if in my vagina, but it seems small since it's on my butt.
Thanks so much to anyone who cares to answer these questions for me and others, but I'm glad I read the Happy Boards! There's hope!

[coping63]

Originally Posted by seeksbliss

It's very inspirational and I decided to read the Happy Boards because I'm feeling down in the dumps tonight. It's all still new to me, so I guess I need more time. I'm going to be very blunt with my questions and hope they can be answered, but many of them came up after reading the Happy Boards.
#1. - How does one apply, use or drink Garlic Oil and can you buy it anywhere?
#2. - I don't understand what I am reading about vaginal cuts/tears/razor like lines, etc. Is that something a lot of women get from having herpes? Is that part of it, just like an OB is part of it, or do some of you never get that?
#3. Oral sex plays a huge part in our lives. I'm very depressed about the risk for him, esp since he doesn't have herpes 2 like me.
#4. - If I have never had oral herpes, or even a coldsore, but do have herpes 1 & 2, can I give HIM herpes just by going down on him?? Do we shed through our mouths or something? I'm sorry if this is a silly question, but I don't know.
#5. - I keep seeing Vulvar Vesitbulitis mentioned, but people say it is NOT caused by herpes, so it it a coincidence that some women have it??
#6. - I mentioned I just had my first OB two weeks ago and had a quarter size red spot with a lot of little bumps on it. Many said it was mild for a first OB, but someone else just said that a quarter is a big size for an OB. That would seem big if in my vagina, but it seems small since it's on my butt.
Thanks so much to anyone who cares to answer these questions for me and others, but I'm glad I read the Happy Boards! There's hope!

[coping63]

Hi Chick..

Those are all good questions. Hope these answers help.

1. Garlic comes in many forms, capsule, oil and an extract, plus the regular kind we use in foods, some people with herpes actually put the oil on the affected area, this can cause burning especially if it is a new OB, so I wouldn;t suggest that route.. You can digest the capsule or use the oil in your foods... be mindful if you are allergic to onions, leeks don't use garlic at all...

2. the cuts , razor and tears are all part of an OB, everyone is different, some people will get just a bump that itches and burns, some people get sores, so this is common but it doesn;t happen to everyone...

3. oral sex, you have HSV1 and 2 of the genitals, so no it would be very unlikely for you to pass it to your boyfriend in this manner, but if you are concerned, you can use a condom, it is not the same but it will keep you from worrying, as far as him catching it from you by preforming oral, the chance is always there even when no symptoms are present, so to elimate the risk you can use a dental dam..

4. Vulvar Vesitbulitis, is simple swelling of the vulvar and the surrounding areas of the vaginal, this can be caused by many things, bubble bath, soap powder, rubbing of your underwear, I think women with herpes are just more prone because they are already inflammed during an OB, but not all women get it, it depends again on the person.

5. I think your description of your first OB was mild compared to others I have read about, but everyone reacts different so people have different opinions..

You take care and feel better soon, it takes time but it gets better... Promise

[seeksbliss]

Thank you so much for your answers! I've asked some of these before, but when I'm upset, I think I don't retain some of what I learn for a while. My mind is crazy these last few weeks with this shocking news. The other thing I didn't ask is....what about deep kissing each other when I have both and he only has HSV 1? The other frightening thing is....will he ever be able to do oral sex on me without taking a chance? He loves it and so do I! I imagine the answer is NO and that just kills us both. It's just can't be the same using oral devices.

[seeksbliss]

I'm sorry about my confusion,but when you said, " it is not the same but it will keep you from worrying, as far as him catching it from you by preforming oral, the chance is always there.." Were you talking about him doing oral on me or vice versa?