So, I've only been diagnosed with hsv 2 for 9 months. The first 3 months for me were pure hell and I thought my world was going to end. Now that I have accepted this virus, my eyes have been opened up in a whole new way. As goofy as it sounds, there are some positive things about being hsv 2 positive! Please share your positives about having H as well!
*I pay more attention to my body now. I listen to it, feed it better things, workout more regularly and try to keep my stress levels low.
*It helps you appreciate the days and your body when you are outbreak free and healthy!
*My mindset on sex is entirely different. I refrain from any sexual activity, and have made the choice to not have sex until I am married. I don't want to pass this on to anyone else, and I want to view my body as a gift (yes, even with herpes!!) to the man who deserves me.
*I have become more sensitive and aware of other diseases around me, and dare not judge those who have them. I used to be somewhat of a b**** before having this, and would view those with any sexual transmitted disease as dirty. That's not the case, and I am blessed to have my eyes opened to this now.
*I have a secret. Secrets are fun to have, and my secret to the world is that I have hsv 2. Only the precious, most trustworthy people will get to know about my little secret.
*It's really not the end of the world. Life does go on, and you actually appreciate friends, health, nature, family a lot more... or at least I did.
Amen to you-you have a wonderful outlook on this virus that so many of us have. I have had "H" for 11 years and I too have learned to accept it. My husband passed away in 2008 and then I entered the dating world. Many men rejected me because of "H". At first it really hurt my feeling and I thought I would never find anyone again. I hated dating because I love being committed and loved by one and the only reason I was single again was due to my husband passing away. I had a couple relationships that were very stressful and the out brakes were very common due to my stress level. I learned too accept what I have and when I tell someone I am not shameful. I figure I could have a lot of worse things. I exercise just about every day and I find myself looking in a crowd of people sometimes and saying to myself "I wonder who of them have "H"?" Because you cannot tell because anyone in the world could have it. Rich, poor, clean, dirty-yes anyone who has SEX can have this. If a person is having sex than they can get this. I now have found a wonderful man and have been with him for a year and he accepts me for everything I am. We will get married someday and I do everything in my power to keep him from getting "H", but he has told me that if he gets it then he will accept it because he loves me.
I am so happy to hear you have accepted this and you are looking at having this in a different way and not judging people anymore. I just wish some others on this site could do the same. Some think it is the end of the world and life will not go on. Well our secret is that is does go on and I am damn happy with my life and having "H" for 11 years now and life too go. ;-)
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Amen to you-you have a wonderful outlook on this virus that so many of us have. I have had "H" for 11 years and I too have learned to accept it. My husband passed away in 2008 and then I entered the dating world. Many men rejected me because of "H". At first it really hurt my feeling and I thought I would never find anyone again. I hated dating because I love being committed and loved by one and the only reason I was single again was due to my husband passing away. I had a couple relationships that were very stressful and the out brakes were very common due to my stress level. I learned too accept what I have and when I tell someone I am not shameful. I figure I could have a lot of worse things. I exercise just about every day and I find myself looking in a crowd of people sometimes and saying to myself "I wonder who of them have "H"?" Because you cannot tell because anyone in the world could have it. Rich, poor, clean, dirty-yes anyone who has SEX can have this. If a person is having sex than they can get this. I now have found a wonderful man and have been with him for a year and he accepts me for everything I am. We will get married someday and I do everything in my power to keep him from getting "H", but he has told me that if he gets it then he will accept it because he loves me.
I am so happy to hear you have accepted this and you are looking at having this in a different way and not judging people anymore. I just wish some others on this site could do the same. Some think it is the end of the world and life will not go on. Well our secret is that is does go on and I am damn happy with my life and having "H" for 11 years now and life too go. ;-)
aww, your story touched my heart! May God bless you and continue to keep blessing you. I am sorry about your loss, and am happy that you have found someone who accepts you for YOU and doesn't see you for just "H"!
Some days I just want to come out and tell everyone so that they can see people can live normal lives with this. I sometimes cringe my teeth when I hear coworkers or someone make a negative remark about herpes and STDs and wish I had the guts to just come clean to them so they can be educated more on this virus.
I still have my moments, and there are times when I can hear a voice inside of me telling me that I am going to be alone for the rest of my life, and I break down, but somehow getting this has made me stronger of a person. I know there are worse things to have out there, and knowing this makes me super grateful that it's JUST HERPES!
Thank you for sharing your story and for being an inspiration!
So, I've only been diagnosed with hsv 2 for 9 months. The first 3 months for me were pure hell and I thought my world was going to end. Now that I have accepted this virus, my eyes have been opened up in a whole new way. As goofy as it sounds, there are some positive things about being hsv 2 positive! Please share your positives about having H as well!
*I pay more attention to my body now. I listen to it, feed it better things, workout more regularly and try to keep my stress levels low.
*It helps you appreciate the days and your body when you are outbreak free and healthy!
*My mindset on sex is entirely different. I refrain from any sexual activity, and have made the choice to not have sex until I am married. I don't want to pass this on to anyone else, and I want to view my body as a gift (yes, even with herpes!!) to the man who deserves me.
*I have become more sensitive and aware of other diseases around me, and dare not judge those who have them. I used to be somewhat of a b**** before having this, and would view those with any sexual transmitted disease as dirty. That's not the case, and I am blessed to have my eyes opened to this now.
*I have a secret. Secrets are fun to have, and my secret to the world is that I have hsv 2. Only the precious, most trustworthy people will get to know about my little secret.
*It's really not the end of the world. Life does go on, and you actually appreciate friends, health, nature, family a lot more... or at least I did.
Not to mention that when you find the right person, they stick with you because they love you. You will actually find people with good intentions more often now.
I find myself looking in a crowd of people sometimes and saying to myself "I wonder who of them have "H"?" Because you cannot tell because anyone in the world could have it. Rich, poor, clean, dirty-yes anyone who has SEX can have this.
ps! I do this, too!!!! When I'm at my gym I count the people there and think to myself, well the statistics say that 1 in 5 people have it, so that means there's got to be at least 9 of us here who have "H". lol
I confronted a girlfriend about my situation because I trust her completely and she's been there for me through a lot of things.... when I told her I was diagnosed with herpes, she's like, "No way! Me, too!!!" She's had the virus for 8 years and I had no idea... this girl is gorgeous, amazing, has a great career and I've never heard her complain about any sickness whatsoever.
Not to mention that when you find the right person, they stick with you because they love you. You will actually find people with good intentions more often now.
This is so true! I haven't had to tell anyone yet, but I have dated a couple of guys since I've been diagnosed. (I'm still just in my first year). I take it very slowly, and both of them had zero patience and wanted to have sex within the first couple of weeks of knowing each other. I did not tell them that I had herpes, instead I just broke it off with them because they knew I wanted to go slow. I am upfront about taking it slow/"one day at a time."
Before "H" I probably would've ended up sleeping with both Sad to say, but I have much more respect for myself now.
This is so true! I haven't had to tell anyone yet, but I have dated a couple of guys since I've been diagnosed. (I'm still just in my first year). I take it very slowly, and both of them had zero patience and wanted to have sex within the first couple of weeks of knowing each other. I did not tell them that I had herpes, instead I just broke it off with them because they knew I wanted to go slow. I am upfront about taking it slow/"one day at a time."
Before "H" I probably would've ended up sleeping with both Sad to say, but I have much more respect for myself now.
Yeah, I am only into my 2nd month. But I totally agree, I think more about the relationship itself than I do sex now. Which is probably how I should have been from the start, but you live and learn. I wish you the very best.
Yeah, I am only into my 2nd month. But I totally agree, I think more about the relationship itself than I do sex now. Which is probably how I should have been from the start, but you live and learn. I wish you the very best.
Sad to say, but I have much more respect for myself now.
thanks! you, too!
