Re: Is it ok to have intercourse during an outbreak?
Happy Holidays. You've been exposed for two years, but you're only questioning this now?! I would have pushed for a more definitive answer early on - one less thing to worry about. Your local Planned Parenthood should be able to answer all your genital herpes questions, if you are not getting the answers you require from your gyno, urologist, or primary physician.
Regarding having intimacy during a genital herpes outbreak, yes sexual intercourse is fine to engage in during a genital herpes outbreak. <B>However</B>, although you and your spouse already have been exposed to the Herpes virus, it is possible to reinfect yourselves, meaning that the herpes could spread to another spot in your vaginal/penile/anal region.
<LI>Use a condom when you know there are definite symptoms or abstain until the lesion heals up. Note that there are other ways to engage in sexual intimacy other than intercourse until a lesion heals up!
<LI>When engaging in intimacy, especially during definite symptoms, be conscious to avoid touching each others' pubic region and then touching the anus, eyes and mouth or open cuts. Genital herpes can spread to the eyes, anus, fingernail cuticles, mouth, and any open membrane (such as an unhealed cut).
<LI>Always practice good hygiene (soap and water washing) before and after intimacy (and sometimes during, depending on the nature of sexual play) during definite symptoms. This also goes for masturbation.
<LI> Avoid oral sex during definite symptoms, as Herpes I and Herpes II can be easily transmitted from mouth to pubic/anal region, and vice versa.
<LI> Avoid sharing sexual insertable/vibrating toys during definite symptoms for the same reason. Or wash them before using on your partner.
<LI>And as always, double-check with your physician for additional preventative advice.
Hope this helps.
<p>[This message has been edited by White Sneakers (edited 12-29-2001).]