I recently found out I caught herpes from my boyfriend (we've been together a year, he didn't know he had it - unfortunately for me). I've always been very careful with safe sex, so am extremely devastated about this. However I understand it's common so am now just looking for information as to how to deal with it. I have looked over this board but haven't been able to find any direct answers to the questions I have, so I was hoping some of you could help me out.
1. Knowing now that my BF has genital herpes, can I still give him oral? He doesn't seem to be affected by breakouts, hence why neither he or I ever knew he had it. So how can I avoid oral herpes? I understand condoms would help, but is it possible to do it without?
2. Can we still have sex without a condom? I am on the pill, so we haven't previously used them (since we became a serious couple, we used them while we were just dating). I find condoms can be a bit irritating for me so I prefer without.
3. How can I prevent future outbreaks? Or sense them coming? And in that situation, what should I do? I can't afford to go see my doctor every few weeks - I read online some people suffer outbreaks every few weeks and I feel like with my luck that could be me..
Thank you all in advance, I really appreciate it xo