Unsure, scared, and VERY confused!
My boyfriend and I have been sexually active for about 5 months now, both vaginally and lately anally. We aren't always safe when we are having sex vaginally and are never safe the 2 times we've been anally. I know my boyfriend like the back of my hand and I know what kind of person he is, and he would never let us have sex unprotected or even not tell me if he had an STD. The first time we had sex anally, we had oral first and then anal, and nothing happened and I was fine, but this last time (last week Saturday) we did the same again. It was a little painful afterwards unlike the first, and days following its been worse. First my anus was very sore and red and it felt like I had little cuts. Now just discovered yesterday I have bump on and around my anus. They are sensitive and a little painful. And slowly I have been getting more. I've researched herpies, because it was the first thing I thought of, and frankly my symptoms are becoming more and more like that. I asked him if he had been checked out n he said he had and was clean. He said it was probably just hemorrhoids so I put ointment on it and it hasn't helped. Is it possible I have herpies? Or could it possibly just be a weird reaction? Could I have had the virus before and why didn't it react until now? If I gave him oral why isn't it affecting my mouth? Could I have have it to him? When should I know when to get checked? Please help! I don't know what to do, and I just want some answers!