This is exactly what happened to me... on the female side. I got it when we broke up. Luckily he does love me enough that he can look past it. My recomendation is u read the cdc website to know abt it. As far as oral sex, it seems that HSV2 is less likely to spread to the face. But it is possible if there is an outbreak or shedding.
Good Luck. Remember that however you feel about it she feels even worse.