Re: Is casual sex a thing of the past?
For me, casual sex is indeed a thing of the past. To engage sexually without allowing someone to make an informed consent is... non consensual. Another word for sex without consent is rape, be it statutory or otherwise. I know in my heart it's wrong, for me. I wouldn't ever want someone to gamble with the rest of my life because the odds are good.
So, that being said I don't have casual sex. People talk. Even without malice, the fact that 'that cute guy I banged in the bathroom' or 'I was gonna, but he told me he had herpes' is a pretty juicy sentence... one easily shared amongst a woman's friends. I do have a LOT less shame about this than I used too, but I don't wanna wear a T-shirt. If I go there, it is after I have gotten to know someone's character, are they capable/mature enough to empathize even if they decide not too? I've had 1 'no thanks' and 4 that seemed to really be turned on by honesty and vulnerability, and were inspired to go the extra mile.
I hope that didn't sound preachy, or harsh... this is just how I manage it between my ears in order to behave. I love sex, and it would be easy to be inconsiderate and selfish while obtaining it. Peace.
PS... for what it's worth, I had an sexually active relationship for 10+ years without giving it to my girl... no condoms. I did pay VERY close attention to my body. That funny little itch, or something that bore any passing resemblance to a flu symptom and she was cut off from penetration til it was resolved.
Last edited by iamchris; 01-23-2013 at 07:50 AM.
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