After reading many, many different threads about H, I am posting for my very first time.
I had my very first OB last weekend, freaked out (of course), because I didn't know what it was. I told my boyfriend (of 3 months) and we started joking that if it was H, he would let me call up his ex and give her a piece of my mine.
Before I found out, he was very sweet.. he even wanted to look and see what the outbreak looked like and assured me "it's probably just a bad reaction to gluten, a rash".
Well, the symptoms intensified. I went to the doctor the next day, got a culture. Test results came back positive. I told him yesterday over the phone and granted, I know I didn't do it right. He was at work and I was flipping out! He was upset, thinks I blame him (which I really don't. it's just something that happened). He said he needs time to think. I haven't heard from him since yesterday morning.
I am so scared. I need his comfort, but I also know he is processing all of this for the first time too. I have sent him a few texts and an email, basically saying how much I want to be with him, I don't blame him and I want us to support each other through this. I know he is probably angry at the world, and hopefully not me... He has not shown any symptoms, and so it's coming as a shock. Also, he hasn't been tested yet, but my doctor did say that an outbreak like this usually means that my partner gave it to me.
I am confused. Do I leave him alone? Let him come to me?
I am afraid he will want to end the relationship. Which doesn't make that much sense since before this, we were totally in synch, very affectionate, wonderful sex life, spend every weekend together and talk every day.
Also, as far as I can tell, if we both have the same strain, and stay together, our sex life doesn't really need to "change" other than if one of us has an OB right?
Any advice, words of encouragement, similar stories, would help greatly!
Thank you in advance!