I've just today been diagnosed with herpe's type1, on my genitals.
I'm SO devastated. I've always been careful-I've slept with far less people than most people I know, some a LOT younger than me and I'm so upset to have caught this.
I'm in a long-term relationship, but I have a couple of female friends that I've recently been intimate with. My partner doesn't mind this at all, we're comfortable with it.
Before we slept together I discussed sexual history with them, both had recently been tested.
However, a few days after sleeping with the most recent one, I developed redness, soreness at the top of my 'slit' if you like. I went to the doctors and was tested for everything but she was almost reluctant to take a swab of this red area, as she said it was almost definitely just a spot, probably caused by shaving the area, and not to worry, she was taking a swab just to put my mind at rest.
And yes, it came back that it's herpes. Type1-caught from oral sex.
I told my partner and he's 100% supportive. He even thinks I could have caught it from him rather than my girl friend, as he's had coldsores in the past albeit no symptoms for 30 years. I learned that even without any symptoms the virus is contagious.
I now realise I've been really stupid, to think that if a girl has been tested and comes back clean, she doesn't have coldsores as the NHS only test for it if someone requests it and/or has symptoms. It's not in the usual STD testing routine.
I've been told that this outbreak was relatively mild and as it's likely my first outbreak, if I even have another one (which I may not!) it will be even milder. I'm trying to console myself in that, and the fact that my partner is the most understanding person in the world and loves me despite this.... Also the nurse who called me with the diagnosis, told me 60-70% of people carry this virus and I'm being silly to get so upset about it.
What can I do? I know I can take antiviral meds, but I am sceptical of those and have heard natural remedies can be as good if not better. I use natural products in most areas of life, I'm a fan of coconut and castor oil, I rarely use commercial shampoos or conditioners, I eat vegan and have for many years-but I've never had a specific health condition like this, that I've sought natural 'medication' for.
I am flitting between crying my eyes out, and feeling silly for doing so when this is so common, I feel 'damaged' somehow and am really upset
I feel bad for just coming on here and asking for help. I will offer more than this to this forum, It's about time I was more active in the health community online, anyway!