Im hoping someone can be kind enough to spare me a few minutes, to give me a bit of reassurance or offer me some advice.... It really will eb much apprecaited, as Ive got noone else to talk to.....
I contracted HSV1 eight years ago and thought noone would ever want to be with me again (a bit dramatic I know, but we all remember that feeling when we first found out) Luckily for me though the first person I told accepted me and 'it 'completely. I think this is partly why I fell so much in love with that person.....that feeling of acceptance and NEVER having to explain my situation again, as this relationship appeared to be for keeps. Unfortunately it didnt work out in the end and as much as Im fortunate never to have been affected down there again, what with finding myself single again, it has really made the whole stigma thing rear it's ugly head again, in my head.
Basically I've met someone online (who lives in a different city) and we've been chatting for 3 months now. I met him at the weekend and quite liked him so am hoping this develops....the problem?.....I feel that I should wait until I am completely sure there could be something between us before i spout about my sexual health....however, another part of me feels
like this guy might end up being annoyed when I do eventually tell him as he might feel like I've wasted his time, if he decides he doesn't want to be with me cos of the herpes. I'd hate to let someone down like that and for them to feel like they've been cheated, but surely this should wait until I know for sure if this is going to develop into something? Or should I be telling him before his feelings for me develop further? Id really appreciate any words of wisdom here.
Thanks in advance.